I had someone put this message in an email the other day. It really made me think about life. I always like the little snippets or comments that cause me to think or look at things in a different way. To quote the comment:
When you worry about what other people think, it shows you have more confidence in their opinion than you have in your own...
I feel this is very true. I can not count the times I have been upset that others have not perceived me as the person I really am in life. Yet why do I listen to them? I do not feel they are correct and it makes it so it can ruin your self-image by listening. Yet listening to them may also be a solution as you think why would they perceive me that way when I am such a different person. How am I acting that I would be perceived that way.
Introspection can be good for the soul. It can make it so you look at yourself and see reasons why others might misjudge or perceive you in a bad fashion. Did they see you when you were upset or frustrated and make this judgment on just one moment of your personality? It may also be that they know you are not going to play their social games and try to exclude you. Yet why is their opinion important?It is not important unless you believe them.
I had one person who must have felt inferior to me try to find something to humiliate me with while I was visiting. First it was about my table manners. It was a good strategy as where I live is not known for its extra forks and silverware. Sometimes you even have to ask for silverware so I knew I was on shaky ground with my table manners. Yet Emily Post when I checked her did show me I did not have to worry.I allowed this person to make me dread eating and socializing. I was so nervous I had the worse table manners I ever had at any time or social function.Yet why would it matter? It matters because of people judging you and trying to have a social status or caste system so they can feel superior.
Yet the reason this mattered was because I allowed myself to listen to someone who wanted to put me down. I let the person get to me instead of my normal rule of thumb that real people do not need to do things like that to others. At the same time I had eye strain from my sunglasses being broken. One person helped me and I could feel the anger when the table manners person said how dare he touch a white woman. I knew I had caused the person who was nice to be to be fired at that moment. It would not matter what happened or what he did the person making the comment was his boss and a malicious person.
In a real world the kindness of that person should have been rewarded. I have been trying to do something nice for him since that day. I tried to make nice comments but that made it worse so I have done prayers for him to be lucky, happy and safe for a year now. It was not my fault but I feel bad for any problems his being nice caused him.
It was not right or fair. Yet others create their own worlds where they are perfect and superior. They give out these ideas and opinions to make it so others exist in their world and live by their rules. They are always the separate and superior people.They are also the ones who try to judge others where they are special. No one who is socially superior or special needs to do this. I always feel if you are that special then everyone will know it anyway.
I have also seen people make fools of themselves being nice to others. They try to be nice and I always tell them you either are nice or you are not nice. You make bad choices when you push yourself to have others perceive you as nice.It is the real point here trying to make others perceive you as something is not necessary if you are a nice person, or anything else you want them to perceive you as being in your life. If you live in truth then you know what you are and do not need to push it. People who judge others by sex, race, class status are limiting themselves and removing a great deal of excitement from their lives.
So listen to others and see if you are what they say you are. Do you like yourself and feel that they are judging you. If they are and you do not feel what they say is true then do not try to make yourself into something you are not. If they can not like you for yourself then it is their opinion. If you let others opinions influence you so you are not your true self and do not like yourself then what are you really? You are another person who is disconnected from life and does not enjoy being themselves. It is what causes mental illness and many problems.
Love yourself and be yourself. It is not always easy and being different always has been hard. The good part is when you make a friend you keep friends.
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Friday, April 15, 2011
Friday, September 5, 2008
My Birthday and My Gift to Myself -talking about my life problem
Hello Everyone
Today is my birthday and I am giving myself the gift of talking about myself and my spiritual problem. I wear myself out helping others, and do not charge much as a consultation fee. I have had quite a few people tell me everyone else they contacted wanted to start with $1500.00 or more to do any work at all. I charge $50.00 to start and ask for a donation upon results.
Yet the first thing I hear from people who consider themselves knowledgeable in magic is that I have no ethics and am a predator. I have had three people lie about me and when I offer proof everyone acts like Oh well and no apologies for what was said to me. Like it is Ok to abuse me.
I used to cry about it and ask why God wanted me to do this to help others. I realize that most of these people have their own perceptions and in their ego led life they are feeling that they can judge others and never listen to any thing they do not want to hear. I am tired of being poor because I try to do work for others who can not afford it. Yet I do not know any other way to help them with their problems. I also know these same people would scream bloody murder and raise fits if they did not get paid for the work they do. Yet they judge me nonstop with a double standard which is what they are about in their life.
I have self-help plans where people can do things for themselves for a reasonable price. Yet none of these things seem to work. Charging has gotten rid of a great many of the liars and abusive people. I do not care if I am popular as much as I can do the work, and help the people who are not lying about their income problems.
The real clincher recently was someone asking me why I was not voting for Barack Obama. My reason as a Reverend in an Interfaith church, and a spiritual person was because he ditched his friend, mentor, and spiritual adviser of 20 years the moment it became known what he preached in his church. Obama attended this church for 20 years so had to agree with the pastor.
It was about black rights and done in the style of the 70's. The teachings of Louis Farrakhan and other things that showed hate. Yet none of the people objected to the teaching of hate whites. Obama is half white but he must hate that side of himself to listen to those teachings. I do not hate any of the races that make me up as imperfect as they might be.
I was a victim of these preachings in the 70's and do not feel a president should be a member and accept spiritually the advice of hate. It is bad enough that our society is making it so you are not human if you are poor, ill, or a minority. It causes resentment and anger which goes into hate. Yet the person running our country should be fair to everyone including his own Grandparents that he calls the white folks. Including having the woman who influences him the most, his wife, not be someone who shows how anti-white they are in public.
Anyone who gets rid of a spiritual adviser after 20 years just to look politically correct would be willing to lie, and do things just to get elected. This is not unusual but it will not be good for any race if the hate is fanned to a flame by the opinions of the president.
I stated all of this, and was told I had no ethics, faulty logic, and was abused and put down by an Obama supporter. I was prejudiced. I have wondered when it has happened that issues can not be discussed about a potential president with out a person being prejudiced. Look at my photograph and see all the races in me how can I be prejudiced?
Anyway my message today is stop the abuse. All of you who read this realize that when someone disagrees with you it is not a personal assault. It is a way of how they feel and if you did not want to know you should not ask. Stop the abuse of judging others, and saying they are playing into the peoples mental problems when it comes to spiritual problems. 90% of the people I get as clients see psychiatrists who can not heal what is wrong. Yet addressing the problems both ways with healing the spiritual seems to get results.
Stop the abuse of treating others badly because they are not what you want them to be. Try to look at it from someone else's perspective and respect them as a person. If you have to be abusive or nasty then you have lost the perspective of a discussion and just are a bully. You are trying to prove your superiority and that you are special. We all leave this world in the same way and no one is special except in the mind of God. The rest of us are here to learn how to unite with the divine and experience life.
Today is my birthday and I am giving myself the gift of talking about myself and my spiritual problem. I wear myself out helping others, and do not charge much as a consultation fee. I have had quite a few people tell me everyone else they contacted wanted to start with $1500.00 or more to do any work at all. I charge $50.00 to start and ask for a donation upon results.
Yet the first thing I hear from people who consider themselves knowledgeable in magic is that I have no ethics and am a predator. I have had three people lie about me and when I offer proof everyone acts like Oh well and no apologies for what was said to me. Like it is Ok to abuse me.
I used to cry about it and ask why God wanted me to do this to help others. I realize that most of these people have their own perceptions and in their ego led life they are feeling that they can judge others and never listen to any thing they do not want to hear. I am tired of being poor because I try to do work for others who can not afford it. Yet I do not know any other way to help them with their problems. I also know these same people would scream bloody murder and raise fits if they did not get paid for the work they do. Yet they judge me nonstop with a double standard which is what they are about in their life.
I have self-help plans where people can do things for themselves for a reasonable price. Yet none of these things seem to work. Charging has gotten rid of a great many of the liars and abusive people. I do not care if I am popular as much as I can do the work, and help the people who are not lying about their income problems.
The real clincher recently was someone asking me why I was not voting for Barack Obama. My reason as a Reverend in an Interfaith church, and a spiritual person was because he ditched his friend, mentor, and spiritual adviser of 20 years the moment it became known what he preached in his church. Obama attended this church for 20 years so had to agree with the pastor.
It was about black rights and done in the style of the 70's. The teachings of Louis Farrakhan and other things that showed hate. Yet none of the people objected to the teaching of hate whites. Obama is half white but he must hate that side of himself to listen to those teachings. I do not hate any of the races that make me up as imperfect as they might be.
I was a victim of these preachings in the 70's and do not feel a president should be a member and accept spiritually the advice of hate. It is bad enough that our society is making it so you are not human if you are poor, ill, or a minority. It causes resentment and anger which goes into hate. Yet the person running our country should be fair to everyone including his own Grandparents that he calls the white folks. Including having the woman who influences him the most, his wife, not be someone who shows how anti-white they are in public.
Anyone who gets rid of a spiritual adviser after 20 years just to look politically correct would be willing to lie, and do things just to get elected. This is not unusual but it will not be good for any race if the hate is fanned to a flame by the opinions of the president.
I stated all of this, and was told I had no ethics, faulty logic, and was abused and put down by an Obama supporter. I was prejudiced. I have wondered when it has happened that issues can not be discussed about a potential president with out a person being prejudiced. Look at my photograph and see all the races in me how can I be prejudiced?
Anyway my message today is stop the abuse. All of you who read this realize that when someone disagrees with you it is not a personal assault. It is a way of how they feel and if you did not want to know you should not ask. Stop the abuse of judging others, and saying they are playing into the peoples mental problems when it comes to spiritual problems. 90% of the people I get as clients see psychiatrists who can not heal what is wrong. Yet addressing the problems both ways with healing the spiritual seems to get results.
Stop the abuse of treating others badly because they are not what you want them to be. Try to look at it from someone else's perspective and respect them as a person. If you have to be abusive or nasty then you have lost the perspective of a discussion and just are a bully. You are trying to prove your superiority and that you are special. We all leave this world in the same way and no one is special except in the mind of God. The rest of us are here to learn how to unite with the divine and experience life.
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