| "The base of all things is love and respect." |
| -- Vickie Downey, TEWA/Tesuque Pueblo |
| The greatest weapon of any Spiritual Warrior is love. Love will change minds; love will forgive; love will let go; love will cause good luck; love will heal; love will cry; love will get rid of resentments; love will overcome fear. Love loves love. Any human who is loving will be guaranteed respect. Respect loves love. We need to love and respect ourselves. I can not count the times I have been called a fluff bunny because I state that we have to forgive ourselves and others. It is something they think is to new age for serious magic, and the New Agers feel I am to hard core to be a New Ager. I am sort of caught in the middle. I want to thank White Bison quotes for this quote as it has made me think and that is what a quote is all about. Yet I have seen miraculous cures because of the person forgiving others and sending themselves love. People who have gone through a trauma have to love and respect themselves. They need to approve of themselves again and realize that they are a person who has learned and that they are a good person. New Agers always talk about love and light. The thing is it is Divine love that creates miracles and that is what we should send to ourselves and others. Regular love is not what undoes evil or problems. Respect for ourselves, the divine and belief that divine love undoes and dissolves evil is a big part of healing. Divine love can dissolve problem patterns with healing because it changes the energies and sets a new better template of ourselves and what we are to do to exist. Resentment and anger link us to the negative and makes it so we are hateful people as far as energies are concerned. It is why I do not like to say who is harming a client. I just do work to cleanse and clear them and tell them to forgive what has happened. I always suggest metta meditation to be sure that the person knows how much things can change. Metta meditation is a Buddhist method of self-love that can be linked to any divine force and I have a version of it in my website library. |
Showing posts with label self respect. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self respect. Show all posts
Saturday, April 14, 2012
The Base of all things is Love and respect
Friday, March 16, 2012
Self-Respect
Self-respect cannot be hunted. It cannot be purchased. It is never for sale. It cannot be fabricated out of public relations. It comes to us when we are alone, in quiet moments, in quiet places, when e suddenly realize that, knowing the good, we have done it; knowing the beautiful, we have served it; knowing the truth we have spoken it. ~Whitney Griswold
I know that people say to others you have no self-esteem or self-respect. It is because we are being judged by them by their expectations and standards. What brings self-respect is knowing that we will do the right thing for ourselves and others. Speaking the truth is not always as easy to do as many times our truths hurt others feelings. The most beautiful thing in the Universe is the Divine, God, Goddess or what ever name you feel the creator of love and life is named.
The joy of a good friend, the happiness of being around others, and visiting the places we love. It is all a part of beauty. Doing what we want to do with out living out the expectations of others is also good. I am having fun just being myself and socializing at lunch with people in a neighborhood in the Philippines. It is nice because I am being treated as a real person. I am Nita and not just another foreigner in the Metro Manila area. I am myself.
The work I do requires that I work upon myself and my actions at all times. The challenges and choices get harder and more subtle when I do get to the point of which direction my life will go. Yet I have to look at myself and what I want to be. I have to learn to control what I am and the best way to treat myself and others. It is what life is all about in this world.
I know that people say to others you have no self-esteem or self-respect. It is because we are being judged by them by their expectations and standards. What brings self-respect is knowing that we will do the right thing for ourselves and others. Speaking the truth is not always as easy to do as many times our truths hurt others feelings. The most beautiful thing in the Universe is the Divine, God, Goddess or what ever name you feel the creator of love and life is named.
The joy of a good friend, the happiness of being around others, and visiting the places we love. It is all a part of beauty. Doing what we want to do with out living out the expectations of others is also good. I am having fun just being myself and socializing at lunch with people in a neighborhood in the Philippines. It is nice because I am being treated as a real person. I am Nita and not just another foreigner in the Metro Manila area. I am myself.
The work I do requires that I work upon myself and my actions at all times. The challenges and choices get harder and more subtle when I do get to the point of which direction my life will go. Yet I have to look at myself and what I want to be. I have to learn to control what I am and the best way to treat myself and others. It is what life is all about in this world.
Sunday, October 16, 2011
Respect-taking responsibility for our actions to others
"Many religions have been brought to this land. And the way my religion is, they teach me, and they taught me, and told me to respect all religions. And I still do that." -- Horace Axtell, NEZ PERCE
All religions are a different pathway to God and all should be accepted in that way. You do not have to worship the ways others worship but you must respect the belief's of others. I accept everyone's religion and try to find a healing method that suits their belief system. I feel that if a person chooses a religion it is twice as powerful for them. Yet many people are suited to the belief system they are born into and have been taught the prayers all their lives.
It means that when you love a belief system or religion that love goes to the divine of that religion. The religion also shapes the persons in the proper way to act towards others. I have a spiritual path which means I am doing this because I love God in all his forms. Yet religions developed to teach customs,habits and promote safety for their members.
The rules of cleanliness in some religions prevented illness. The laws upon what should or should not be eaten also promoted good health and prevented illness. All of these things are done for certain reasons. Many religious books have the added wisdom of generations in comments and advice. All of these things are from centuries of human beings trying to understand and communicate with an unknowable all encompassing divine force beyond their total understanding.
Our eternal self or our soul understand this fact. Yet the conscious mind does not understand this and tries to lump people into groups. Once you lump someone into a group instead of as a people of individuals the bad actions begin. It can happen with nationalities, gender,color, and religion.
Respecting others and taking responsibility for our actions is the key to being a real person. No one should allow someone else to bully, or treat someone badly for any reason. Yet respect for others and our myriad religions is the way to start in this process.
All religions are a different pathway to God and all should be accepted in that way. You do not have to worship the ways others worship but you must respect the belief's of others. I accept everyone's religion and try to find a healing method that suits their belief system. I feel that if a person chooses a religion it is twice as powerful for them. Yet many people are suited to the belief system they are born into and have been taught the prayers all their lives.
It means that when you love a belief system or religion that love goes to the divine of that religion. The religion also shapes the persons in the proper way to act towards others. I have a spiritual path which means I am doing this because I love God in all his forms. Yet religions developed to teach customs,habits and promote safety for their members.
The rules of cleanliness in some religions prevented illness. The laws upon what should or should not be eaten also promoted good health and prevented illness. All of these things are done for certain reasons. Many religious books have the added wisdom of generations in comments and advice. All of these things are from centuries of human beings trying to understand and communicate with an unknowable all encompassing divine force beyond their total understanding.
Our eternal self or our soul understand this fact. Yet the conscious mind does not understand this and tries to lump people into groups. Once you lump someone into a group instead of as a people of individuals the bad actions begin. It can happen with nationalities, gender,color, and religion.
Respecting others and taking responsibility for our actions is the key to being a real person. No one should allow someone else to bully, or treat someone badly for any reason. Yet respect for others and our myriad religions is the way to start in this process.
Sunday, May 29, 2011
Forgiveness- a way not to empower others
Forgiving someone isn't a sign of weakness it means you refuse to let them hold that power over you and always know respect is earned.
Most people have little experience with understanding what forgiveness really is in our lives. We all rubber stamp our behavior saying we forgive someone. They may cause us hurt feelings, act badly or done something so unforgivable that we say for years they do not deserve to be forgiven. It is a power of ours to not forgive someone who has hurt us even to the day he dies in hopes that they do not get the blessings they would normally. Yet how many of us understand the effect of forgiveness on our lives.
People believe forgiving someone is giving away your control or power over a situation and that it shows approval of others bad behavior. They never put themselves in the other persons shoes when it is something petty and think how could that have happened where this problem occurs. We have all done things that others have needed us to forgive them over or ask to be forgiven by others. Yet people never consider why is forgiveness so important.
Forgiveness is important as the quote says because it releases the energies that people generate that are holding power over you. They have your anger, your hurt feelings, your grief, your sorrow, and the trauma you suffered for the rest of your life. Once a trauma happens to someone it can affect them in two ways. They can become a victim and be sure that it happens again and again in their mind and energies. They do not know how to release the evil and say good always wins out and every thing will be alright if I make it through this problem.
I have a friend who is a sheriff and had to solve a case with a brutal rape and murder. The person who did it was easily caught and the victim's family quietly sat through the trial. they listened to every thing said and done while he was given the penalty of life in prison. The defense talked about his childhood and how he was raised and it surprised my friend that the Mother and Father wanted to see the prisoner before he went to prison. He and the other deputies were ready to protect the prisoner. Instead the people talked to him and said they forgave him. They said he should be in prison because he hurt others but they forgave him for what he did to their daughter. They would not suffer for the rest of their life with hatred for him.
My friend said before this happened that the guy had a tough guy attitude. The Mother and Father left and he burst into tears. He killed himself with in a year in prison. The people did not want that to happen to him because they had forgiven him and released the emotions of hatred and revenge. The prisoner did that to himself because the forgiveness released the humanity with in him that knew what he did was wrong.
Forgiveness releases the emotions to what ever belief of the divine that you hold in your life. You release the lower hurt painful emotions to a higher force that understands what happened. No one wants anyone else hurt yet sometimes it can not be prevented. If someone tries to kill you then you have to fight back or die. If you are a soldier you do things that are horrible to mainly help everyone you have grown to be around like a brother. It is not the big deal of political purpose but the fact that you bond like a family.
Yet at these times it is something that gives you respect to forgive others and yourself. It releases you to a new life of change. If you hold on to revenge and hatred then you trap yourself in the bad cycles. Romance and Family are the hardest ones to forgive. Loved ones are not supposed to act in many ways. We have the best expectations of them and how they should act. Especially brothers and sisters, mothers and fathers as they have books on what a loving family acts like. Expectations make it so we judge others by our standards and then forgive them by our standards. We do not respect them and ourselves and understand that things can happen which make it so bad choices are the only things left. We feel if it did not happen to us then it is something they did wrong and they wronged us.
I have had people tell me forgiveness is rubber stamping bad behavior. I always tell them that forgiveness is releasing the energies. You never have to allow them to be around you again nor do you allow anyone else to act that way to you. It is a sign of respect for yourself, and others. It is also a way to heal so you do not carry emotional baggage around for the rest of your life.
It does take time but the relief of knowing that you are freed from the negative emotions that drag you down is immense. No one can move into the future that is stuck in the past.
Most people have little experience with understanding what forgiveness really is in our lives. We all rubber stamp our behavior saying we forgive someone. They may cause us hurt feelings, act badly or done something so unforgivable that we say for years they do not deserve to be forgiven. It is a power of ours to not forgive someone who has hurt us even to the day he dies in hopes that they do not get the blessings they would normally. Yet how many of us understand the effect of forgiveness on our lives.
People believe forgiving someone is giving away your control or power over a situation and that it shows approval of others bad behavior. They never put themselves in the other persons shoes when it is something petty and think how could that have happened where this problem occurs. We have all done things that others have needed us to forgive them over or ask to be forgiven by others. Yet people never consider why is forgiveness so important.
Forgiveness is important as the quote says because it releases the energies that people generate that are holding power over you. They have your anger, your hurt feelings, your grief, your sorrow, and the trauma you suffered for the rest of your life. Once a trauma happens to someone it can affect them in two ways. They can become a victim and be sure that it happens again and again in their mind and energies. They do not know how to release the evil and say good always wins out and every thing will be alright if I make it through this problem.
I have a friend who is a sheriff and had to solve a case with a brutal rape and murder. The person who did it was easily caught and the victim's family quietly sat through the trial. they listened to every thing said and done while he was given the penalty of life in prison. The defense talked about his childhood and how he was raised and it surprised my friend that the Mother and Father wanted to see the prisoner before he went to prison. He and the other deputies were ready to protect the prisoner. Instead the people talked to him and said they forgave him. They said he should be in prison because he hurt others but they forgave him for what he did to their daughter. They would not suffer for the rest of their life with hatred for him.
My friend said before this happened that the guy had a tough guy attitude. The Mother and Father left and he burst into tears. He killed himself with in a year in prison. The people did not want that to happen to him because they had forgiven him and released the emotions of hatred and revenge. The prisoner did that to himself because the forgiveness released the humanity with in him that knew what he did was wrong.
Forgiveness releases the emotions to what ever belief of the divine that you hold in your life. You release the lower hurt painful emotions to a higher force that understands what happened. No one wants anyone else hurt yet sometimes it can not be prevented. If someone tries to kill you then you have to fight back or die. If you are a soldier you do things that are horrible to mainly help everyone you have grown to be around like a brother. It is not the big deal of political purpose but the fact that you bond like a family.
Yet at these times it is something that gives you respect to forgive others and yourself. It releases you to a new life of change. If you hold on to revenge and hatred then you trap yourself in the bad cycles. Romance and Family are the hardest ones to forgive. Loved ones are not supposed to act in many ways. We have the best expectations of them and how they should act. Especially brothers and sisters, mothers and fathers as they have books on what a loving family acts like. Expectations make it so we judge others by our standards and then forgive them by our standards. We do not respect them and ourselves and understand that things can happen which make it so bad choices are the only things left. We feel if it did not happen to us then it is something they did wrong and they wronged us.
I have had people tell me forgiveness is rubber stamping bad behavior. I always tell them that forgiveness is releasing the energies. You never have to allow them to be around you again nor do you allow anyone else to act that way to you. It is a sign of respect for yourself, and others. It is also a way to heal so you do not carry emotional baggage around for the rest of your life.
It does take time but the relief of knowing that you are freed from the negative emotions that drag you down is immense. No one can move into the future that is stuck in the past.
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
The Power of Beauty, and Music
I like many people appreciate the beauty of a flower, the beauty of a sunset and many other things in this world where I know the divine exists. Yet how many of us try to have beauty in our lives? A cluttered house always leaves an edge in our mind that we should be cleaning it up. Anything that removes beauty from our lives also removes ways to connect to the divine.
I was lonely when I first moved away from my family. I ran up a big phone bill and then had a friend tell me that she used to do that. I said how did you quit being lonely and like living alone. She said every time she became lonely was a time she cleaned her house or made it pretty. It made her feel better and if anyone came over to visit she could welcome them to her home.
We limit ourselves through our own fears from seeing the beauty in life. Some people do not want to go places because someone might hurt them or the people might not like them. The secret is to learn to like yourself, and be sure that you respect yourself. How you feel about yourself is mirrored in your actions and in your environment.
I am not talking as much about how we see flaws in how we look. I do not know of a single person that does not have a moment of seeing themselves as not perfect. Yet is how we look more important to the divine or our actions? A person can be nice no matter what they look like. They can respect themselves when they are fat, or feel ugly. It is nice to be able to lose weight but some people have health problems where they can not do so.
So looks are not the be all to end all to the divine. What is important to him is allowing ourselves to enjoy his world. Listen to music that brings peace and happiness to us. I am not talking about a great deal of the music which seems to generate hate, and curse words. I am talking about music that makes our soul sing with joy. It does not have to be religious but does have to have the ability to uplift us.
Mankind is the only thing upon this earth that has a challenge in this life to experience it. Our choices are important, what we do to bring the divine alive in this world is important. Our love, kindness and happiness is important. That is also included in being kind to ourselves, love ourselves, and be happy with ourselves.
Life is not about doing this to everyone else and neglecting ourselves. It is about bringing the divine alive in our lives through our own self love and being what we love.
I was lonely when I first moved away from my family. I ran up a big phone bill and then had a friend tell me that she used to do that. I said how did you quit being lonely and like living alone. She said every time she became lonely was a time she cleaned her house or made it pretty. It made her feel better and if anyone came over to visit she could welcome them to her home.
We limit ourselves through our own fears from seeing the beauty in life. Some people do not want to go places because someone might hurt them or the people might not like them. The secret is to learn to like yourself, and be sure that you respect yourself. How you feel about yourself is mirrored in your actions and in your environment.
I am not talking as much about how we see flaws in how we look. I do not know of a single person that does not have a moment of seeing themselves as not perfect. Yet is how we look more important to the divine or our actions? A person can be nice no matter what they look like. They can respect themselves when they are fat, or feel ugly. It is nice to be able to lose weight but some people have health problems where they can not do so.
So looks are not the be all to end all to the divine. What is important to him is allowing ourselves to enjoy his world. Listen to music that brings peace and happiness to us. I am not talking about a great deal of the music which seems to generate hate, and curse words. I am talking about music that makes our soul sing with joy. It does not have to be religious but does have to have the ability to uplift us.
Mankind is the only thing upon this earth that has a challenge in this life to experience it. Our choices are important, what we do to bring the divine alive in this world is important. Our love, kindness and happiness is important. That is also included in being kind to ourselves, love ourselves, and be happy with ourselves.
Life is not about doing this to everyone else and neglecting ourselves. It is about bringing the divine alive in our lives through our own self love and being what we love.
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