Self-Respect

Self-respect cannot be hunted.  It cannot be purchased.  It is never for sale.  It cannot be fabricated out of public relations.  It comes to us when we are alone, in quiet moments, in quiet places, when e suddenly realize that, knowing the good, we have done it; knowing the beautiful, we have served it; knowing the truth we have spoken it.  ~Whitney Griswold

I know that people say to others you have no self-esteem or self-respect. It is because we are being judged by them by their expectations and standards. What brings self-respect is knowing that we will do the right thing for ourselves and others. Speaking the truth is not always as easy to do as many times our truths hurt others feelings. The most beautiful thing in the Universe is the Divine, God, Goddess or what ever name you feel the creator of love and life is named.

The joy of a good friend, the happiness of being around others, and visiting the places we love. It is all a part of beauty. Doing what we want to do with out living out the expectations of others is also good. I am having fun just being myself and socializing at lunch with people in a neighborhood in the Philippines. It is nice because I am being treated as a real person. I am Nita and not just another foreigner in the Metro Manila area. I am myself.

The work I do requires that I work upon myself and my actions at all times. The challenges and choices get harder and more subtle when I do get to the point of which direction my life will go. Yet I have to look at myself and what I want to be. I have to learn to control what I am and the best way to treat myself and others. It is what life is all about in this world.

Death of the Ego or death of defects by being your true self

"The first factor in the revolution of consciousness is the mystic death of the ego - the death of negative thinking, negative personalities. We must purify the soul of the inner enemies. Every time a defect manifests - envy, gluttony, anger, lust, whatever - that impulse to the heart. Ask, `Do I really need to invoke this?' And then honor the heart."

-- Willaru Huayta, QUECHAU NATION, PERU I have heard many versions of working on defects to remove negativity. It is my job in one way as that is what evil uses to hook too. Yet this is what I feel every healer, person, occultist or anyone trying to improve themselves should do. It includes the seven sins and all the worry and anxiety that holds people back from their dreams. Many people believe that it means they have to make their true personalities into something else. This is not so as it is removing parts of the personality to become a person who lives in truth and honoring themselves. Big egos and believing that you are special or that it is right for you to walk over the feelings, and livelihood of others is not the true self of anyone. It is learned behavior from others who justify themselves. We are all equal as people and yet we are always judging others. I am superior to so and so because I have a new car and they do not have a new car. I can dress better than they do so I am superior. All of the mind games that we use to make ourselves special or important where we judge and hurt others are negative. This is a trait through out all of humanity and you can be black, white, Asian, or of any race, belief, and income level to do this to yourself or others. The worse part of dealing with someone with a big ego is their finding out that you can do something better than they can do it. They become vicious and put you down at every level they feel superior in so they can believe their own claims about how special they are in their lives. I always feel it is not how special you are that is important but how special you are to the people around you. Love, kindness, caring, and being good to others is what is important. The people who are wrapped up in their egos will never be happy because they are lying to themselves on many levels. So be a truthful person to yourself and a true person to others. You will not need a big ego because you will like yourself and be happy with your life.

Encouragement and Love

“Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not
like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will
not forget you. Love me and I may be forced to love you.”
 William Arthur Ward


I have to agree with this quote from the experiences of my own life. I have made my mistakes in assessing people and what they act like to me and others. My wise Aunt once told me that how people act is more important than what they say or others say about them. I made my mistakes in life and realized how true this was when dealing with others.

I have a dysfunctional family so my first mistake was keeping friends who acted like my family so many of us do this to ourselves. I have always been criticized and ignored by my Mother and Sisters. I grew very good at criticizing and ignoring others.Once I started studying the works of spirituality I started to change. All of the things I had been shown to do to others I had to look at and say do I like myself. If I do not like myself then why am I doing this to myself and others.

I had an ex flatter me and say all of the right things. I would have done anything for him. Yet again I was picking people like others I had been around who only thought of themselves.  He ended up causing me problems that lasted for years that I had to work through and resolve. I found that many people laughed at others being naive or trusting. It hurt worse than my family and I tried to hide the sweetness, love and kindness behind being tough.

I found people who encouraged me in my work. I love helping others for that reason. Yet many times it comes down to being blunt and telling the truth. People do not always like this and do not see that I accept that back from others as well. I saw with their expectations that they were ignoring what I really am and what they had to do in their lives.Expectations can be deadly as the divine healer is the one who decides and has control. The rest of us just wait upon him.

I have loved many people and some have loved me back. It is the most wonderful experience especially if you find someone who not only loves you but encourages you. It does not mean you had sex with them or that they do what you want them to do. It is just genuine love for a person you care for and understand. It is the blessing of life. I have had others do this for me and I have done that for others also. The criticism, flattering and ignoring that you experience from others make it so once you find the difference you never let it go.

May everyone find the person who will encourage and love them in their lives. If you have found them give them a hug and kiss to let them know you appreciate them.

Perceptions and Reality

Reality is what we take to be true.
What we take to be true is what we believe.
What we believe is based upon our perceptions.
What we perceive depends upon what we look for.
What we look for depends upon what we think.
What we think depends upon what we perceive.
What we perceive determines what we believe.
What we believe determines what we take to be true.
What we take to be true is our reality.

~ Gary Zukav ~


Reactions and perceptions are a big part of our life.  In the work that I do many people say God does not listen to me. Nothing ever goes my way and they believe it. Yet each morning when they wake up they are making their reality into what they wish it to be. Breaking out of that reality is not always an easy thing to do. I know that I have had my life shaped by others beliefs many times.It is because they are so persistent to have others join them in their misery instead of laughing enjoying life and having fun.

Yet why should I be in the same mood as others. Belief is a powerful tool and so many things try to shape our reality and beliefs. You watch the news and you perceive the world as a harsh place that is going bankrupt and many other negative things. Yet if we perceive ourselves as able to cope and deal with our problems and think outside of the box. We will not have those attitudes.You could also watch the news and say I have a great life and thank God even if you do not know who is helping you intellectually.

I have always enjoyed traveling but every thing seemed to happen where I saw the US and parts of Mexico or Canada. I never thought about planning for travel out of the country. Yet I always prayed that I would find a way to do my work and enjoy myself. I was amazed when I became well known enough to have people pay for me to travel to help them.  I did a good job, made many friends and my perceptions changed. I would have laughed at anyone who told me I would be going to all of the places I have gone to doing my work.

All of us shape our reality by our perceptions and choices. Anyone can do anything by persistence and belief. You can bring sunshine into someones life with smiling at them. You can light up your world by helping others with the little things in life. A compliment about a dress, helping with groceries, or any other way you can help another.

Reality shapes with the energies that we put into it. I do not understand why people curse others as who would want that energy back. People who nonstop complain always find something to complain about or they are lost.  So spirituality is also about just being thankful at times. Happiness is a state of mind and it does not mean that life has to be perfect. It just means that we are happy to be alive and know that by endurance and persistence we will have more things to be happy about in our lives.

A Time of Rejoicing

I have many clients who have problems. The psychic attack makes the problems worse and many times the healing left to be done is emotional. Post Traumatic Stress can be induced by psychic attack, anxieties and many other problems.

The clients who can not break their patterns are the ones with the most problems. I achieved another goal today because of another client who is cured of her problems. She may have some issues she needs a counselor for but she no longer has the issues that brought her to me.

It feels good when this happens I have validation that my methods do work. I have joy over another person who is freed to move forward and have a happy life. It is why I do this work. I know that I can do nothing with out the divine and it is like knowing that the divines love is with me.

I work very hard to vary methods so the healing of someone means I found the way to connect them to the divine in a fashion that works with their soul. I love the moments when I know that the divine spark in a person I am helping came alive and I was able to help the person be healed.

Focal points

Focal points are the energetic spot where negative energy can enter into the energies of a house, person, or place. Focal points are formed by release of energies that can be used by negativity. A person dying in a house gives off energies that can attract negativity even if they do not become an earth bound spirit. The reason for this is the pain or the spirit leaving weakens the veil of energies that keep spirits separate from that place.

Homes can be built upon places where battles were fought or others died. The people in the house will notice the difference if the spirits do not want them there. The house will have discord, accidents, and negative events continue to happen. The reason for this is the deaths or energies of the land become a focal point where evil can appear easily.

Magic in many cultures is about focal points. All magic has to have a focus or place to send energies both good and bad. You want to win the lottery so you try to focus on the numbers that you picked lighting up and being the ones that show up for the Grand jackpot.

Negativity using focal points form the problems energies of many peoples lives. Psychic vampires or energy vampires focus on the victim and extrude what looks almost like tentacles in the knots or dark spots of traumas in the victims aura. The reason for this is the knots or dark spots are the places where the traumas are stored.

A person who tries to project their energies upon others will actually overlay the energies of one person with another. They then send all of the emotions that they want to believe the person is doing upon the poor victim. Once the victim has the bad energies the person projecting the images takes the good for themselves and blames the victim for doing something they never did in their life.

It means if you feel that someone or something is focusing on you a house cleansing and house blessing is good to do. The blessing helps bring alive the divine sparks and have the divine focus upon you. If you notice a person doing it then get rid of all gifts from that person, and all links to that person. My new book will have a link breaking wheel to do this easily.

I have quite a few ways to make it so that the person can not focus upon the victim to free them of the harm others can do. Spirits have to be kept out and removed. The easiest way to do this is to bring in the divine energies by prayer, music, beauty, and happiness. Negativity can not exist where these energies exist.

Happiness and Satisfaction in My Work

All of the following posts lead up to this one. I wanted others to realize that this is serious work, and not something that can be done in 10 minutes with the wave of a magic wand. It is like doing detective work. You have to figure out the who, what, why, when, and where to solve the puzzle. The energies have to be read, and you have to understand what you are doing to help others.

I really enjoy the job when I solve the puzzle and see a person become happy and healthy. I have not sounded like my normal cheerful self. The reason for this is the fact of two or three people treating me like my private life, experience and training mean nothing. I intend for this to be put into an article to show not everyone claiming to be a spirit removal expert, demon killer, and other specialties really know what they are doing. I am also doing these articles to show that the person being worked upon is sometimes the abuser not the victim when it comes to people who try to help them. It is part of the problem with what I do as no one knows what to expect except from the movies.

Not every one who complains about an exorcism not working is the victim as they have to work upon themselves also. They should see a psychiatrist and see if there is any physical reason for their problems. No one is taking the place of a doctor. No one can do anything but help you until the things you do, and feel that evil is attached to are reduced to the point where the problem can be removed.

Post Traumatic Stress is a problem as this is so out of the realm of most experiences that it is more traumatic. Self-worth issues also happen and many other feelings the person has to work upon so it is not a quick fix.

Victims who make an agreement with these forces and like some of the things they can do are impossible to help until they work themselves out of denial, rationalization, and their issues. So they can claim multiple people do not know what they are doing when it is the fact that they want to be fixed their way and with out any work upon their issues.

So what is the solution to this? The only one I have found is many of these people will not pay money or say how broke they are. If they call me a psychic, and want a reading then when I quote a price they say how broke they are then they will not get worked on by me. I will pray for them to find someone who fits what they want to help them.

My solution for issues is to learn as much as I can of many different disciplines where I am an eternal student just to be sure I can do my work properly. I am a professional and this is a great deal of work.

I want people to realize this is not something easy nor is it making it so the people have beliefs which are wrong. It is serious issues in a persons life and nothing to be made light of or taken lightly.

I am like having a doctor on retainer and do work every day to help others. The rewards are worth it.

Wish Boards, and Wish Boxes

I mentioned how the laws of attraction have worked for me. They worked best when I wanted to redo my entire life. I was just fed up with how it was going. Once I got part of the wishes I stopped doing the spell. I now know I should have kept it up each day.

I plan to set a project for my ning groups where everyone makes a wish board and then we work on making the wishes come true. Wish boards and boxes have an advantage. They use photographs and they help people visualize who have problems with manifesting things in their life.

Some people are not visually oriented so they have their dreams but never can get clear images of what they would like to occur. The picture should be looked at every day and dreamed about afterwards in a happy meditation. Everyone should then get together and work on how to bring this into the persons life. Give ideas and help.

Many people may have to draw or print out what they want as somethings do not always depend upon finances but are personal challenges. I feel it ought to be a fun project for everyone. I hope some of you who read this would like to join us.