I am at the end of this list even though I could do a few more. Yet the above three obstacles in our lives cause most of the problems. Ego is a real dream killer. The reason for this is the person with the big ego will walk blindly along leaving emotional wreckage in very step they take. People who have problems with their egos always have problem with control and expectations.
If you look at what makes up a person full of themselves it is always judging others as inferior so they can say I am special or better than the other person. Whole societies do this that have caste systems. It does not mean a poor person or a person from a lesser social status might be smarter or more inventive. What matters is they can put them down as less than what they are.
Yet that person who is always judging and putting others down really feels inferior to everyone. I have seen people who are so special and they are the nicest people who make everyone feel comfortable. Look at yourself and see if you have the danger signs. If you have to say you are special or better than others you should work upon yourself. The reason for this is that if you are better and special others know it and you do not have to say a word.
People who have to micromanage everyone and be in control in all areas of their life are really afraid and fearful. The person with ego is always having to convince himself that he or she is better than everyone else. The person with expectations brings all of this together in a cruel way that is not as obvious. They are always the people making fun of others but they can not take what they do to others.
To set your expectations on anything means that you know you can do what your goal. It is the sign of good business people and successful people. Yet most of those people do not experience success every time. It takes trial and error to manifest the good. If you experience the first set back and blame everyone else most of the time it is all about you. The triple combination of having to be right and superior, control every thing and have everything including the flowers on the table to fulfill your expectations is a deadly combination.
You are not living in reality or truth. You do not dedicate yourself to the hard work just the good feeling of being in charge. Everyone likes to be in control at certain moments. I have had people I told that they needed to let the magic manifest and concentrate on bringing it into existence by doing their work on the physical plane. They were not in control and it scared them.
The expectations that they had were for everything to manifest and be easy for them. People do not realize how magic works and how psychics work. Magic works through the way of the least resistance. It is like a water leak as it is difficult to find and works it way into everything. So it does not manifest in big ways. If it does manifest in a big way then the resistance against what you are doing has to be over come. Magic manifests by persistence and some times a great deal of time and effort.
No one knows how long it takes to heal because it happens in layers and there is no control over where it leads the person to remove the layers. Ego can happen to the healer as much as to the client. No healer can heal everything. Psychics may be good at some things but no one is perfect at every thing. I always state when I try something new that it is new to me and I do not know how things will work. I am a magician plus being a psychic so again I get results but dare not to develop a big ego over it. Anyone who does the work I do has to consider the divine doing it and have compassion or the work does not get done.
So the person with control problems and expectations with a problem about needing to feel superior creates the most blockages of all. Think about it if you develop a big ego and think you are special there is always someone out there to rub your nose in how special they are. If you try to be in control there will always be a certain level of chaos because no one can be in total control. If you have expectations the world never works that way.
The reasons for this is the divine has a sense of humor and also a real talent for challenges. We are meant to overcome the obstacles and problems we have set for ourselves in our life. I may sound rough on people at times but it is the time of every one thinking positive and good things happen. We were thinking positive when the world economy crashed. Thinking positive does not work when a part of us refuses to believe it and does all of the actions that create causes and effects.
The only way to cure these problems is to practice knowing ourselves and living in truth in our lives instead of how we want our lives to be. Yet it also has to be realize that people say things like what we want removed means we draw more of it. It is not true as you can problem solve and then fill where the negative energies were with love and kindness.
Duality is a condition of living on this earth.
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Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Monday, August 17, 2009
Permission for Healing
People want to help others that they know are having problems. They get in touch with me and want me to do work upon others. I can ask the higher self in certain instances but I really need permission from the person to be healed. People push what they want upon others. They feel a person would do better if they did things in a certain way.
The person with problems may not see it that way. They may see the problems as needing to be cleared and a different path for themselves than the person who has contacted me. It is why I always try to get permission of the person I am healing.
The healing will not work properly if the person does not give a certain level of permission. I always ask for permission to heal the person of (state problems) and I will continue to work until the problems are resolved or the person tells me to stop working. I do this to make it so it is not open ended permission.
People do not consider how an open ended permission can allow others access to them even after the work is done. Most people will not use that access but some people do access the people so they continue to receive the payments and money they are sending. I have seen others actually change the energies to make the client contact them again.
It is when the healer is more of a problem than the original problem. It is also the same for any spirits involved in the healing. No matter what spirits are called it should always be stated that the work is until certain problems are resolved or the person asks them to stop the energy work.
It safeguards everyone and makes it so ethical behavior is the standard. It allows the client to know that they are able to be safe.
The person with problems may not see it that way. They may see the problems as needing to be cleared and a different path for themselves than the person who has contacted me. It is why I always try to get permission of the person I am healing.
The healing will not work properly if the person does not give a certain level of permission. I always ask for permission to heal the person of (state problems) and I will continue to work until the problems are resolved or the person tells me to stop working. I do this to make it so it is not open ended permission.
People do not consider how an open ended permission can allow others access to them even after the work is done. Most people will not use that access but some people do access the people so they continue to receive the payments and money they are sending. I have seen others actually change the energies to make the client contact them again.
It is when the healer is more of a problem than the original problem. It is also the same for any spirits involved in the healing. No matter what spirits are called it should always be stated that the work is until certain problems are resolved or the person asks them to stop the energy work.
It safeguards everyone and makes it so ethical behavior is the standard. It allows the client to know that they are able to be safe.
Sunday, July 27, 2008
Toxic Groups and Traveling
I will be traveling to a case from the 29th to August 8th so my posts may be farther apart. I wanted to talk about the signs of a toxic group. Many people get on the internet to make friends and just talk with people. There are many special interest groups that help foster these discussions.
Yet there are also many toxic groups in the area of magic, and spirituality. They have the marks of being a cult, and are into control over others. I plan to mention the different things I have found in toxic groups. A group may have one or two of these signs and it is a good experience being a member. Four of these signs or over four will be something where you should not join them and avoid them at all costs.
1. Control-does the leader demand obedience and treat people poorly. Does he do what he tells others to do. I know one of the worse groups I was in the leader always said to do what he said not what he did.
2. How are members treated? Does a higher rank or status in the organization mean that people are allowed to be abusive? Is the rank considered a sign of work upon themselves or just a way to bully people.
3. Does the group believe in an apocalyptic shift of energies, an end time date, or have a us against them attitude? Are compounds isolated, members watched, and other aspects of a cult where the members are controlled in every way. Run, do not walk away from any group that does this to others.
4.Do they come down on others for mistakes but never admit to their own mistakes? If they do admit to them how do they act about them. Are they too serious about themselves and others.
5. Are they angry, stressed, upset or just negative in their attitudes about life. Are they working to overcome these problems or is it just accepted as part of the group.
6.Do they make fun of other traditions and methods. A certain amount of this in learning a method is normal-like it makes use of shamanism what is the rest of this all about. Yet trying to understand a method that seems valid is different than saying that it is impossible.
7. Do they force everyone on the same path with out any allowance for differences and variations in peoples energy systems and talents.
8. Do they talk at their students or to them. Do they brag all the time and never keep their mouth shut. Do you have to hear them put down everyone but themselves.
9. Do they help their fellow members and trust their members enough to ask for help from them. Do the members feel they are part of a big family that accepts them. Or a dysfunctional family that abuses them.
10. The last is one thing that should send any woman running for cover. How are women treated or accepted. I had one group leader who felt he had a right to try to have sex with every woman that joined that fitted his standards of beauty. He actually put love spells on the students while saying it was a demonstration. Some traditions have sex and nudity mentioned right at the beginning where people can decide what they want to do. If it is not required then do not expect to be treated properly if you turn the leader down and want to learn.
Any woman has to be a judge of whether this is normal attraction or not. Yet the leader I am mentioning was married and doing this to everyone. A group that does things this way will show favoritism, and demean others. No woman should join this group.
I know that this will hold true for males who are joining groups. It can also be a lower rank male trying to get to the top the way he feels is easiest. Watch out for any of these actions as the entire group can break apart even if it has potential and promise.
11. If the group leader has hurt students and threatened people in public and it is a spiritual organization leave it. The reason for this is he has not done any work on himself if he acts that badly.
I hope these tips help anyone joining a group. I have seen this happen with yoga groups, magic groups, and many others. Any one joining a magic group should look at the people and ask if you would trust them with your life. If you could depend on them no matter what happened. The reason for this is you will be doing ceremonies and any mistakes they make could endanger your life, and sanity.
Life, magic and friends are to be enjoyed even if they are work. If you are in a group that does not accept or support you then that group is not right for you. Staying will only make it worse. Look for the good groups with people you can trust and accept as people. It will make your experience so much better not putting up with groups hoping that they get better.
Yet there are also many toxic groups in the area of magic, and spirituality. They have the marks of being a cult, and are into control over others. I plan to mention the different things I have found in toxic groups. A group may have one or two of these signs and it is a good experience being a member. Four of these signs or over four will be something where you should not join them and avoid them at all costs.
1. Control-does the leader demand obedience and treat people poorly. Does he do what he tells others to do. I know one of the worse groups I was in the leader always said to do what he said not what he did.
2. How are members treated? Does a higher rank or status in the organization mean that people are allowed to be abusive? Is the rank considered a sign of work upon themselves or just a way to bully people.
3. Does the group believe in an apocalyptic shift of energies, an end time date, or have a us against them attitude? Are compounds isolated, members watched, and other aspects of a cult where the members are controlled in every way. Run, do not walk away from any group that does this to others.
4.Do they come down on others for mistakes but never admit to their own mistakes? If they do admit to them how do they act about them. Are they too serious about themselves and others.
5. Are they angry, stressed, upset or just negative in their attitudes about life. Are they working to overcome these problems or is it just accepted as part of the group.
6.Do they make fun of other traditions and methods. A certain amount of this in learning a method is normal-like it makes use of shamanism what is the rest of this all about. Yet trying to understand a method that seems valid is different than saying that it is impossible.
7. Do they force everyone on the same path with out any allowance for differences and variations in peoples energy systems and talents.
8. Do they talk at their students or to them. Do they brag all the time and never keep their mouth shut. Do you have to hear them put down everyone but themselves.
9. Do they help their fellow members and trust their members enough to ask for help from them. Do the members feel they are part of a big family that accepts them. Or a dysfunctional family that abuses them.
10. The last is one thing that should send any woman running for cover. How are women treated or accepted. I had one group leader who felt he had a right to try to have sex with every woman that joined that fitted his standards of beauty. He actually put love spells on the students while saying it was a demonstration. Some traditions have sex and nudity mentioned right at the beginning where people can decide what they want to do. If it is not required then do not expect to be treated properly if you turn the leader down and want to learn.
Any woman has to be a judge of whether this is normal attraction or not. Yet the leader I am mentioning was married and doing this to everyone. A group that does things this way will show favoritism, and demean others. No woman should join this group.
I know that this will hold true for males who are joining groups. It can also be a lower rank male trying to get to the top the way he feels is easiest. Watch out for any of these actions as the entire group can break apart even if it has potential and promise.
11. If the group leader has hurt students and threatened people in public and it is a spiritual organization leave it. The reason for this is he has not done any work on himself if he acts that badly.
I hope these tips help anyone joining a group. I have seen this happen with yoga groups, magic groups, and many others. Any one joining a magic group should look at the people and ask if you would trust them with your life. If you could depend on them no matter what happened. The reason for this is you will be doing ceremonies and any mistakes they make could endanger your life, and sanity.
Life, magic and friends are to be enjoyed even if they are work. If you are in a group that does not accept or support you then that group is not right for you. Staying will only make it worse. Look for the good groups with people you can trust and accept as people. It will make your experience so much better not putting up with groups hoping that they get better.
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