Friendship

A friendship can weather most things and thrive in thin soil; but it needs a little mulch of letters and phone calls and small, silly presents every so often - just to save it from drying out completely.Pam Brown 

I have to remember this quote as I go in spurts of solitude. I need the time to myself many times not because my friends have done something wrong. It is my hard work, being tired and sometimes just finding the way to communicate and be friends. I think of this more often as I am far from some friends and am now living in a new place.

I try to adjust but still have problems. Yet I have to admit that most people just think of themselves or what they want to believe. Expectations as I have mentioned before are problems in every one's life. You meet a family and love one of the members as a friend. You are nice to them but it does not mean they will be nice back to you.

You have jealous envious people every where who will dislike you because you have worked hard. You can relax and actually get things to make your life better. They do not work or stay at home yet are willing to complain and drive someone else crazy to try to get something for them. They never once think of doing something to get things themselves.

All these lead up to the people we put around ourselves. I have always been very hard core in many ways. I had one person who has been a friend of mine for over 20 years tell me. You can have different level of friends. They can just be acquaintances. You do not need to get rid of them. I have to agree on many levels but to me the hardest thing in the world is to love a friend and have them turn out to be willing to harm you or hurt you for their own agenda.

It hurts my soul and I just am not labeling and using people that way. Yet to be functional in this world we have to look at the people we are around. The question is if they are an acquaintance because they acted badly. Was it through trusting the wrong people? Was it through just closing up and not communicating. No one is a friend if you feel they would harm you and in my opinion it is better not to let them be around you.

The ones who trust the wrong people or do something that is not trying to harm you. I can see keeping as acquaintances. Yet what are most people keeping around as friends? Are they true friends or have an agenda where they may be hurting, lying or manipulating you because they believe they are smarter than you. Do they want something you have and are they envious people. You have to look at and set boundaries for the people in your life. Not just loved ones but for friends also. Being nice can be deadly.

So everyone who sees this I would like you to call up, talk too, email, or send a silly gift to the friends who have stood the test of time. They are the reason for enjoying life and knowing that someone cares for you.