Saturday, April 23, 2011

Mistakes and how to deal with them

The quote I picked after the last blog post is the following one.

Everyone has mistakes in their life. No ones life is perfect.Everyone will always have problems. But how we deal with them makes us who we are.

I know many of the people who talk to me expect life to stay perfect all of the time. Life has ups and downs. Astrology, fortune telling, and many other things have been developed by mankind over the years trying to predict these times. Yet nothing has been perfect in my experience as there are always things in our lives that we are meant to do. It is not easy when you are doing the right thing. If it is to easy then you should look at it and see why. Challenges and fixing problems in your life is not easy. 

Dealing with mistakes and admitting to yourself and others that it is a mistake is not easy. You can have the best intentions in the world and have it go wrong. I have always felt that this happens because we have not learned what we are meant to learn from our mistakes. One person will make a mistake and try to blame it on others so it is their fault. A person like this needs to learn responsibility for the actions they take in their life. Everyone makes mistakes and the quickest way to deal with them is accepting responsibility for them.

Some mistakes happen because of improper communications between people. The only way this works is by both parties looking at what happened and why. I have found most communication problems are not about what is said as much as the reactions it causes. No one is perfect so it is the people dealing with their expectations of how they felt things would go. Again not rationalizing but taking responsibility.

I have seen others who feel the only way to get to the top is to blame their mistakes on others and look better than them. I have found the really successful people are the ones who take the blame for the mistake and resolve all of the issues. The next question is do we learn from the problems. A person who asks for an explanation of how things happens and then calls it excuses has missed the point. The point is to understand why a person did something.

I will mention introspection here as if we do not look at ourselves from another persons viewpoint or a viewpoint of observing our actions then we will get nowhere. All problems should be used to look at how they happened, how it can be prevented from happening again, and whether the mistake is just a fact that the whole action or idea was wrong. If the whole idea was wrong then it is time to do different actions to make it so the mistake is gone and life is good.

Many times the mistakes happen during a time in a persons life where they seem to have nothing but mistakes happening to them. Everything goes wrong and they do not know why as everyone else makes the same actions work. I feel these times are the best times to learn about yourself. It helps to define us as individuals by what we do to make our lives our own. I also feel that these times are when we fall off our path, and something is trying to show us that we should do something different in our lives.

Each persons path is their own and most of the time we would not want to be in the other person's shoes and living their life. Yet understanding that if we look at our actions by what repercussions they can cause and harm they can do from an impartial point of view we can save ourselves many mistakes and errors.

Friday, April 15, 2011

Why are other peoples opinions important?

I had someone put this message in an email the other day. It really made me think about life. I always like the little snippets or comments that cause me to think or look at things in a different way. To quote the comment:

When you worry about what other people think, it shows you have more confidence in their opinion than you have in your own...

I feel this is very true. I can not count the times I have been upset that others have not perceived me as the person I really am in life. Yet why do I listen to them? I do not feel they are correct and it makes it so it can ruin your self-image by listening. Yet listening to them may also be a solution as you think why would they perceive me that way when I am such a different person. How am I acting that I would be perceived that way.

Introspection can be good for the soul. It can make it so you look at yourself and see reasons why others might misjudge or perceive you in a bad fashion. Did they see you when you were upset or frustrated and make this judgment on just one moment of your personality? It may also be that they know you are not going to play their social games and try to exclude you. Yet why is their opinion important?It is not important unless you believe them.

I had one person who must have felt inferior to me try to find something to humiliate me with while I was visiting. First it was about my table manners. It was a good strategy as where I live is not known for its extra forks and silverware. Sometimes you even have to ask for silverware so I knew I was on shaky ground with my table manners. Yet Emily Post when I checked her did show me I did not have to worry.I allowed this person to make me dread eating and socializing. I was so nervous I had the worse table manners I ever had at any time or social function.Yet why would it matter? It matters because of people judging you and trying to have a social status or caste system so they can feel superior.

Yet the reason this mattered was because I allowed myself to listen to someone who wanted to put me down. I let the person get to me instead of my normal rule of thumb that real people do not need to do things like that to others. At the same time I had eye strain from my sunglasses being broken. One person helped me and I could feel the anger when the table manners person said how dare he touch a white woman. I knew I had caused the person who was nice to be to be fired at that moment. It would not matter what happened or what he did the person making the comment was his boss and a malicious person.

In a real world the kindness of that person should have been rewarded. I have been trying to do something nice for him since that day. I tried to make nice comments but that made it worse so I have done prayers for him to be lucky, happy and safe for a year now. It was not my fault but I feel bad for any problems his being nice caused him. 

It was not right or fair. Yet others create their own worlds where they are perfect and superior. They give out these ideas and opinions to make it so others exist in their world and live by their rules. They are always the separate and superior people.They are also the ones who try to judge others where they are special. No one who is socially superior or special needs to do this. I always feel if you are that special then everyone will know it anyway.

I have also seen people make fools of themselves being nice to others. They try to be nice and I always tell them you either are nice or you are not nice. You make bad choices when you push yourself to have others perceive you as nice.It is the real point here trying to make others perceive you as something is not necessary if you are a nice person, or anything else you want them to perceive you as being in your life. If you live in truth then you know what you are and do not need to push it. People who judge others by sex, race, class status are limiting themselves and removing a great deal of excitement from their lives. 

So listen to others and see if you are what they say you are. Do you like yourself and feel that they are judging you. If they are and you do not feel what they say is true then do not try to make yourself into something you are not. If they can not like you for yourself then it is their opinion. If you let others opinions influence you so you are not your true self and do not like yourself then what are you really? You are another person who is disconnected from life and does not enjoy being themselves. It is what causes mental illness and many problems.

Love yourself and be yourself. It is not always easy and being different always has been hard. The good part is when you make a friend you keep friends.


Sunday, April 3, 2011

Healing for Japan-The Medicine Buddha-

I have been impressed with how Japan is coping with all of the problems they are having. I thought that this week I would do an Oriental philosophy upon a healing Buddha. It is also a subject dear to me at the moment as I have had my eye problems worsen and realize that the divine is everywhere.

I am an Inter-faith minister which means I believe in all the forms of God no matter what they are named as part of the incomprehensible God. It means that mankind loves God. Mankind finds many ways to worship him, and many names to call him. It is all one God but we and our souls resonate to the part of God that is perfect for us.

I believe that the 12 vows of the Medicine Buddha  are those of any healer who wants to help those upon this earth. I also feel the first 5 of the Buddhist precepts would be good for everyone to listen too. Excess and selfishness are a problem in our world.

The Twelve Vows of the Medicine Buddha upon attaining Enlightenment, according to the Medicine Buddha Sutra are:
To illuminate countless realms with his radiance, enabling anyone to become a Buddha just like him.
To awaken the minds of sentient beings through his light of lapis lazuli.
To provide the sentient beings with whatever material needs they require.
To correct heretical views and inspire beings toward the path of the Bodhisattva.
To help beings follow the Moral Precepts, even if they failed before.
To heal beings born with deformities, illness or other physical sufferings.
To help relieve the destitute and the sick.
To help women who wish to be reborn as men achieve their desired rebirth.
To help heal mental afflictions and delusions.
To help the oppressed be free from suffering.
To relieve those who suffer from terrible hunger and thirst.
To help clothe those who are destitute and suffering from cold and mosquitoes

A link to a YouTube Medicine Buddha Healing Mantra is

Focus on the beautiful Japan we know from so many photographs and the people and animals being healed by the Medicine Buddha. It is a beautiful experience.I feel that the philosophy of Buddhism helped to strengthen the Japanese people to over come the things that have happened to them. I hope the best for them and that their land is able to be healed and the people helped. I respect this form of divinity for the benefits and beauty it has inspired through out the world.

I undertake to observe the precept to abstain from ...
...harming living beings.
...taking things not freely given.
...sexual misconduct.
...false speech.
...intoxicating drinks and drugs causing heedlessness.
...taking untimely meals.
...dancing, singing, music and watching grotesque mime.
...use of garlands, perfumes and personal adornment.
...use of high seats.
...accepting gold or silver.

I find these things similar to many religions in trying to set an ethical behavior. Religion is all about trying to make it so people can work together. I am also very spiritual and a mystic who loves the divine in all of its shapes. I am reminded of how the Japanese people are showing their strength and ethics in the midst of horrible disasters. I did not see this in the United States where I live as disasters seems to cause looting and taking from others.

I ask that all of you help Japan and pray for Japan in what ever fashion is acceptable for you. I am blessed to know all of you and to be able to say I love you all.

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