Follow your Dreams-The cure for Jealousy and Envy

The question for each man to settle is not what he would do if he had means, time, influence and educational advantages; the question is what he will do with the things he has. The moment a young man ceases to dream or to bemoan his lack of opportunities and resolutely looks his conditions in the face, and resolves to change them, he lays the corner-stone of a solid and honorable success.

Hamilton Wright Mabie

I never followed my dreams as a child. My family made me follow their dreams in how I was supposed to act, think and do. This is normal as they are trying to keep you safe in the best way that they know how. A child still can feel stifled in not expressing themselves. It is the time we feel the most anger and have the least control over our emotions in our lives.

We leave home and expect a difference. It does not happen as people who put themselves first are common in this world. People tell us we have to work and we can't have fun. Work is not meant to be fun and to enjoy ourselves we have to wait until our retirement and vacations. Yep that was my family.

I know that I left home and did something I always wanted to do that my Mother would not allow ride a big motorcycle. I traveled all over the country. In following my dreams I avoided a great deal of things I could have been doing that would have been wrong for me.

I have done this my whole life and had some people really dislike me. They say no one can have done all the things I did. I worked hard but I enjoyed my dreams. I studied and did what I wanted to do. I did it with out hurting others and competing with myself. I worked to make myself better.

I followed my dream in moving to the Philippines, and trying to make it my home. I still love the Philippines but I have to look at the people I was around and know the jealous and envious ones did not follow their dreams. They did nothing but say how they could not do this or that in their lives. They tried to make a better life for their children. Yet they did not think of themselves also.

All the jealous and envious people I have met do not like people who follow their dreams. They do not like it someone achieved something they were unable to achieve. They talked bad about them and tried to make themselves look good by making the other person look stupid, silly, or bad. 

Stealing from others is to leave a mark on them of I am stupid. Humilating and putting others down is to leave a mark on them of I am better than you. All of the envy and jealousy trips are to make the person feel better because they did not follow their dreams. They did not do what the other person did who followed their dreams.

It is all about getting even with the person who followed their dreams because of how they feel about their lives. Love and kindness is the key in a persons life. It is not wrong to love and be kind to others. It is what the others do with it that is wrong or right.

What sort of person are you? If you resent and envy others and have to put them down. You should start competing with yourself and make yourself better. You should follow your dreams.

Malice and Envy

It is never wise to seek or wish for another's misfortune. If malice or envy were tangible and had a shape, it would be the shape of a boomerang. ~Charley Reese

I have noticed that malice and envy seem to go in themes. Things happen that make it difficult to not be malicious. Envy has never been a problem for me. I always felt I should compete with myself and if I want something find a way to get it.

Yet envy and jealousy put someone in the situation where they are supposed to be malicious and act badly. These emotions torture the people who have them. I feel anyone is a fool to act this way. Jealousy over someone you love is the most common. I have done this to myself and I would never of had the emotion happen if the person had been acting correctly. So jealousy is always a reaction for me to something my subconscious knows but the rest of me does not want to see or hear.

I have been miserable with others jealousy and envy. I never looked at how much I have suffered because of others jealousy and envy. I know I am not many of the things people envy others for in any way. Yet I am different and some people think they would have fun doing what I do or my work.

They see it as something like the movies or something different than reality. A person who has never been able to get things envies anyone even if they are only buying something simple. Others who have never followed their heart or dreams envies the person with the courage to do so. I have followed my dreams my whole life.

I have used creative visualization and so much prayer. In some things I do great and in other things I have to work on myself like I work to help others. Yet I am always happy when I see someone else get something good. I would be the first person to cheer someone winning the lottery, getting the degree, finding the person that they love. Yet others feel differently and I can see how it can ruin their lives.

The person who tries to make everyone like them, who imposes their judgement on others and who through treachery will try to harm others. It is foolish to do this as it makes it so it does come back on you. It also makes the victims of the envy and jealousy wonder about themselves and why others act that way.

It is because the person is insecure and tries to make themselves look good by putting others down. Who is resentful and wants what others have and takes it for themselves. They are the fools in this life who dig themselves into deeper and deeper pits of problems by hurting others when they should be looking and working upon themselves. Anyone can make it so they can get what they need and want through love and kindness. I am an example of that by the way I try to do things in my life.

I was able to get a Laptop Thank You

I was able to get a laptop because of my past clients, friends, and present clients helping me out at this moment. I lost everything I owned and needed a new apartment at the same time. Burglars are people who are out for money. They can be your landladies, and people you trust also.

Many times it is out of jealousy or envy which are deadly sins. I had years of people in my life having degrees and always getting things easily. Many times it was things I would never want any way but other times I thought why can't my life be easy. Why do I always have to struggle?

It gave me the idea of competing with myself. If I do better and can say to myself I am improved. I have done a good job it is worth ten times envying someone else having it easy. I also found it gave me compassion for the fools who did this to me in the first place. It just puts them in the realm of negativity and nothing they took from me will last for them. The reason why is they did not do it for themselves.

I was always happy when someone did good, won the lottery, or had other good luck. I enjoy people doing good and do not want to take what everyone else has gotten but want to find a way to get things on my own. I am sorry I had to do this for donations and help.

Yet the people who helped and continue to help me are getting a great chance to do charity for someone who needs the help to keep working. I do charity work all of the time, and the wheel turns for everyone. I want to thank all of you for your kindness.