“There is no such thing as a "broken family." Family is family,
and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and
adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family
becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those
ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those
people are your family. And if you hate those ties, those people will
still be your family because whatever you hate will always be with you.
C.Joybell.C
Everyone has issues with their family. I do not know a single person who has gotten along with everyone in their family. There is always one person who is different that everyone either picks upon or tries to help. Family is all about helping each other and loving each other.
Hate and other issues can get in the way of the love in a family. No one trusts everyone in their family. At times things happen to family members that the other members do not want to believe. They use their own actions of what they would do to judge other family members. They talk hatred, anger and rage at the bad things that have happened. They have laughter, joy and love over the good things that happen to the family members.
Why do people say a family if broken if all of these actions and emotions are present in every family. It is broken when the ties in the heart are cut. This happens when family members hurt other family members so badly that love can no longer be there. Trust can no longer be there. The times I have noticed this happens is always over something that the family member who does the hurting of the other members is judgmental, manipulative or ignoring reality.
I have seen horrible things happen and the other family members ignore it. They say the person who is traumatized and hurt can deal with it. They always try to find a way to blame their indifference on the subject to something that is wrong with the other person. The other people are not perfect but for them to find a way to blame others where they do not have to get involved they try to make it so the hurt person is so imperfect that they get to disgrace and shame them. Manipulation of others always involves one person talking badly about the other person.
The family goes after the imperfect people like a pack of wolves or piranhas and the person who is traumatized gets no support at all. It is always an act of superiority like I would never have that happen to me, and you are inferior if it did happen to you. No one ever thinks that trauma is not planned. It happens because we love and trust others. No one can predict who to trust or love. We can be betrayed by a wife or by a husband, a child, a father or a mother, a friend who got the whole family in trouble, a minister, or anyone else that is supposed to be someone to trust that causes a situation in our lives. Cruelty and abuse that have been done to others by family is overwhelming.
Is the person wrong who had the trauma or the people that caused the trauma. I like to believe that the person causing the trauma is the problem because they took advantage of the traumatized persons nature or figured a way to get what they wanted by hurting them. Those people are not your family or anyone elses family even if they are born in your family. They are out for themselves and to look superior. They do not love anyone but themselves.
Family is not by blood even though we all have a family by blood. Family is just like this quote says a product of the heart. It means your friends can be more of a family than your family by blood and birth.Let Love be what exists and release the hatred with forgiveness for any wrongs that have been done to you. Let it go so you can move onto the family of your heart.
People always bring up the bad trying to keep you stuck in place so the secret is to just not talk about it and say something nice and move onward. Your not saying bad and your just not talking about it. releasing and forgiving them to God makes it so life can move forward. The wheel of fate grinds onward to the good future that the people who forgive deserve. You can forgive with out approving of their actions. You do not have to be around them again unless you allow it. You know their nature so if you are around them again just do not stay there if they abuse you. Leave and enjoy yourself with the true people who love you
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