It is a very common, ancient, well-perfected device for trying to feel better. Blame others....Blaming is a way to protect your heart, trying to protect what is soft and open and tender in yourself. Rather than own that pain, we scramble to find some comfortable ground.”
― Pema Chödrön
I have read a few books by Pema Chodron and she is a very wise Buddhist. I appreciate this fact more when I realize that she writes about some of the challenges that I have in life. Do you ever blame yourself for things? I think everyone does even when they did not do anything wrong. Others perceptions are important to us and our accepting these perceptions bring about sorrow and pain in our lives.
Yet why do they do these things if you did nothing wrong. You are responsible for your own actions, words and the things you do. You are responsible when you are lying about and saying bad things about others. Even telling the truth about the evil others have done to you can create circumstances that give people power over your heart and your inner-self.
How do we prevent this? Forgiving our self is one way to do this because you are not responsible for others opinions. If you know the people and saw how they complained and blamed everyone else even when they did nothing and the people were not responsible for their own actions then you knew they would do it to you. I have blamed myself for this dozens of times yet giving others a chance is a good trait yet judging others harshly is bad.
I have had that problem recently with people. They blame their actions on me when I do not act that way. I judge myself harshly with the things I do by the very fact of such negative people being around me who are hateful and hate themselves. I am not responsible for the fact that every one of these mentally ill people feel others act the same way that they do. I am not responsible for their lies, delusions and manipulations of others. I am not responsible for their hateful actions that others hate no matter how much they try to blame me.
I am not responsible for their words, their actions, any actions done by others, their manipulations of others and their lying about my religion, nature, actions, and all the other things people do to separate others from people. People do these hateful actions are mentally ill and act this way to protect themselves and to say they are normal. They do not want to accept people who do not act like themselves because they do not know how to love themselves, accept themselves and can only compare themselves to being better than the evil actions of others even if they have to make up the evil actions or blame the other people for what they did so they can look good and perfect. They are mentally ill when they put their evil actions upon others to abuse, make others suffer, separate others into groups and they form hate groups.
This is very accurate but are we all hate groups of ourselves? Do we hate ourselves for the times we are imperfect? For the times we did something that had bad repercussions when we did nothing incorrect and it was the actions of others that turned it into a great evil? We are only responsible and to blame for our own actions, our own words, our own deeds and how we treat ourselves.
This symbol is for the people who are responsible and introspective. Who blame themselves for things they did not do or accepted that they are not perfect. No one is perfect and may everyone who uses this symbol learn how to love themselves and realize they are not perfect but accepting what others try to do to them is wrong. Cruelty is never correct or right and neither is hate of any type.
The phrase for this symbol is:
Listen to me (say your name) Under stand me (say your name) You are to love yourself. You are to forgive yourself and ask for forgiveness for being ill, doing and saying the wrong things, accepting the blame of others, and hating yourself. Listen to me love yourself
Listen to me love yourself
Listen to me love yourself
Listen to me Forgive yourself
Listen to me Release yourself
Listen to me renew yourself in true Divine Love
Doodle upon this image or look at the image, close your eyes and doodle then sprinkle salt and Italian seasoning on the paper. Look at it again and see all the built of patterns of thoughts and reactions that have brought you so much pain by insulting, manipulating, harming, and cruelty to others when you only meant to be better. As people who do this always do it for certain reasons. People who blame others always feel inferior and since they do not have good examples of what they can do instead rip down others who do their best.
Other reasons are feeling sad or grief stricken about things you did that did not work. Picking upon yourself over a loss or suffering when you did your best and nothing will change the past but forgiveness of yourself. Put all of these emotions into the doodle and then burn it in the barbecue or rip it up and throw it out the window. It will help you to forgive yourself and restore your self-love.