Encouragement and Love

“Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not
like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will
not forget you. Love me and I may be forced to love you.”
 William Arthur Ward


I have to agree with this quote from the experiences of my own life. I have made my mistakes in assessing people and what they act like to me and others. My wise Aunt once told me that how people act is more important than what they say or others say about them. I made my mistakes in life and realized how true this was when dealing with others.

I have a dysfunctional family so my first mistake was keeping friends who acted like my family so many of us do this to ourselves. I have always been criticized and ignored by my Mother and Sisters. I grew very good at criticizing and ignoring others.Once I started studying the works of spirituality I started to change. All of the things I had been shown to do to others I had to look at and say do I like myself. If I do not like myself then why am I doing this to myself and others.

I had an ex flatter me and say all of the right things. I would have done anything for him. Yet again I was picking people like others I had been around who only thought of themselves.  He ended up causing me problems that lasted for years that I had to work through and resolve. I found that many people laughed at others being naive or trusting. It hurt worse than my family and I tried to hide the sweetness, love and kindness behind being tough.

I found people who encouraged me in my work. I love helping others for that reason. Yet many times it comes down to being blunt and telling the truth. People do not always like this and do not see that I accept that back from others as well. I saw with their expectations that they were ignoring what I really am and what they had to do in their lives.Expectations can be deadly as the divine healer is the one who decides and has control. The rest of us just wait upon him.

I have loved many people and some have loved me back. It is the most wonderful experience especially if you find someone who not only loves you but encourages you. It does not mean you had sex with them or that they do what you want them to do. It is just genuine love for a person you care for and understand. It is the blessing of life. I have had others do this for me and I have done that for others also. The criticism, flattering and ignoring that you experience from others make it so once you find the difference you never let it go.

May everyone find the person who will encourage and love them in their lives. If you have found them give them a hug and kiss to let them know you appreciate them.

Guardian Angels

The guardian angels of life fly so high as to be beyond our sight, but they are always looking down upon us.  ~Jean Paul Richter

I am a person who believes in angels and guardian angels. I am sure my guardian angel has covered her eyes many times after saving me. I can see her saying Nita just survived that experience. I feel many people have had their guardian angels working overtime. Yet they never get proof of them in their lives. I have had that proof constantly.

A few years ago Don and I decided to drive to Laughlin, Nevada. Don is my ex-husband that I still take care of as he needs someone also. It is only about fifty miles from where we live. It is also a place where they have reasonably priced prime rib and both of us like to watch movies. Everything went fine but I heard a weird noise.

Don's normal response was to tell me I was being worried over nothing. I always jinxed his cars worrying about noises as it grew to a low roar. He was yelling to be heard but of course the sound was nothing. He could not ignore it by then but his comments were just to start an argument as if I had gone back and poured cement in the back end of the car. Totally discouraged I just shut up.

All of a sudden there was a loud bang, and we started to turn in circles. I was too scared to scream and I got to see semi-truck grills close up as we went through about 5 spins, and stopped from dropping over a cliff by inches on my side.  I was just sitting there shaking when the semi-truck grill I was seeing in the spins went by us and pulled up and stopped in front of us.

A older lady got out of the truck and said I made her believe in God. She said she had never been religious but had seen angels stopping the car from rolling, stopped the car from hitting their new truck and stopped us from going over the cliff. The new semi-truck was a car carrier so they winched our car up on the back of the truck and took us home.

They would not accept a dime and were excited over seeing angels. They dropped us off in our driveway, and then left. Don's main comment was guess we don't get to eat prime rib tonight.  Everyone says Don is bored stiff when I am traveling and gone.

Don told a couple of friends about what the lady said about angels. They said how do you know it is not true and shared their angel stories with us. Everyone has had a time where the prayers of others or their own prayers bring the guardian angels to protect them. I hope you get to see your guardian angels and know that God loves you.