"Don't be afraid to cry. It will free your mind of sorrowful thoughts." -- Don Talayesva, HOPI
I can not count the times I have needed to have a cry. I was raised in the normal fashion but my family always got upset when I cried. I always heard the statement from my Mother "So you want to cry I will give you something to really cry about." It gave me the message that I was not supposed to cry. My worries and fears were nothing to anyone else.
It stayed with me through my child hood and adult life. I was supposed to be strong and not cry. I was not to express my sorrow and grief. I finally realized how much it crippled my emotions. I knew people that had been in families where they hugged all of the time and were affectionate. In my family it was a good night kiss and that was about it. It did not help that I was around others who were also trained not to cry.
I have found many people with this training in their lives. My Father was not afraid to cry and express his feelings. Yet so many men are afraid to do so because they worry about being perceived as weak. I am the same way even at the worse moments because of how my family trained me. I would finally sit down and have a good cry when no one else was around and let go of my sorrow and grief.
I felt better except for my eyes being sore. I released the things bothering me. The actions of others and horrible experiences. I cut them loose and forgave everyone and set them into the past. Forgiveness does not mean you have to be around the person again or let the same thing happen to you. I moved on in my life in better ways because grief and sorrow freeze you in place just like so many other emotions.
Everyone would be healthier physically and mentally if they had a good cry every now and then and let go of their sorrow. It frees you for the better things in life. The reason for this is suffering and sorrow draw more suffering and sorrow. Joy of life brings more joy.
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Friday, September 30, 2011
Friday, November 14, 2008
What are Blockages?
I had someone ask me this question today. I had to realize that everyone uses phrases like blockages and words specific to energy work. Yet very few people explain them. Blockages are formed around moments in a persons life where a trauma, abuse or just a painful experience causes a form of thought.
I will give an example. I know of a person who was abused as a child. The Mother was a narcissist BPD type. She constantly reminded her daughter that she would never be a success and that she would never be lucky. The Mother wanted to be in control and tell her daughter what to do.
The daughter had problems from that moment onward believing she was a success. She had great moments in her life but never felt worthy or successful. She had never heard that she did anything right or good so focused on everything that was not perfect instead of accepting she had accomplished a great deal. She struggled for most of her life having her Mother control her space instead of controling it herself. That is a blockage.
It is normally self-inflicted by repetitive statements made to a person so they react and never accept the good that could come to them with out feeling that way about themselves. Many times negative magic will work the same way.
It creates a blockage that is built up against the good energies or transforms them to bad energies. Magic works with the flow of life and the path of least resistance. So it will hook to these moments in a persons life and make them worse. No one is perfect so the curse makes it worse but that moment is there in the first place.
So people who can never accept love, their own self-worth or many other things about themselves create blockages. The main cure is to work upon yourself and be able to like yourself. If you like yourself and your choices then you can look back upon everything you have done and not regret it. You may feel you could do things better but no one is perfect and you have to hit a balance with your emotions.
People who can not do this have blockages and should try different methods of working upon themselves until they break the patterns of thought that cause them such sorrow and grief.
I will give an example. I know of a person who was abused as a child. The Mother was a narcissist BPD type. She constantly reminded her daughter that she would never be a success and that she would never be lucky. The Mother wanted to be in control and tell her daughter what to do.
The daughter had problems from that moment onward believing she was a success. She had great moments in her life but never felt worthy or successful. She had never heard that she did anything right or good so focused on everything that was not perfect instead of accepting she had accomplished a great deal. She struggled for most of her life having her Mother control her space instead of controling it herself. That is a blockage.
It is normally self-inflicted by repetitive statements made to a person so they react and never accept the good that could come to them with out feeling that way about themselves. Many times negative magic will work the same way.
It creates a blockage that is built up against the good energies or transforms them to bad energies. Magic works with the flow of life and the path of least resistance. So it will hook to these moments in a persons life and make them worse. No one is perfect so the curse makes it worse but that moment is there in the first place.
So people who can never accept love, their own self-worth or many other things about themselves create blockages. The main cure is to work upon yourself and be able to like yourself. If you like yourself and your choices then you can look back upon everything you have done and not regret it. You may feel you could do things better but no one is perfect and you have to hit a balance with your emotions.
People who can not do this have blockages and should try different methods of working upon themselves until they break the patterns of thought that cause them such sorrow and grief.
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