Mistakes and how to deal with them

The quote I picked after the last blog post is the following one.

Everyone has mistakes in their life. No ones life is perfect.Everyone will always have problems. But how we deal with them makes us who we are.

I know many of the people who talk to me expect life to stay perfect all of the time. Life has ups and downs. Astrology, fortune telling, and many other things have been developed by mankind over the years trying to predict these times. Yet nothing has been perfect in my experience as there are always things in our lives that we are meant to do. It is not easy when you are doing the right thing. If it is to easy then you should look at it and see why. Challenges and fixing problems in your life is not easy. 

Dealing with mistakes and admitting to yourself and others that it is a mistake is not easy. You can have the best intentions in the world and have it go wrong. I have always felt that this happens because we have not learned what we are meant to learn from our mistakes. One person will make a mistake and try to blame it on others so it is their fault. A person like this needs to learn responsibility for the actions they take in their life. Everyone makes mistakes and the quickest way to deal with them is accepting responsibility for them.

Some mistakes happen because of improper communications between people. The only way this works is by both parties looking at what happened and why. I have found most communication problems are not about what is said as much as the reactions it causes. No one is perfect so it is the people dealing with their expectations of how they felt things would go. Again not rationalizing but taking responsibility.

I have seen others who feel the only way to get to the top is to blame their mistakes on others and look better than them. I have found the really successful people are the ones who take the blame for the mistake and resolve all of the issues. The next question is do we learn from the problems. A person who asks for an explanation of how things happens and then calls it excuses has missed the point. The point is to understand why a person did something.

I will mention introspection here as if we do not look at ourselves from another persons viewpoint or a viewpoint of observing our actions then we will get nowhere. All problems should be used to look at how they happened, how it can be prevented from happening again, and whether the mistake is just a fact that the whole action or idea was wrong. If the whole idea was wrong then it is time to do different actions to make it so the mistake is gone and life is good.

Many times the mistakes happen during a time in a persons life where they seem to have nothing but mistakes happening to them. Everything goes wrong and they do not know why as everyone else makes the same actions work. I feel these times are the best times to learn about yourself. It helps to define us as individuals by what we do to make our lives our own. I also feel that these times are when we fall off our path, and something is trying to show us that we should do something different in our lives.

Each persons path is their own and most of the time we would not want to be in the other person's shoes and living their life. Yet understanding that if we look at our actions by what repercussions they can cause and harm they can do from an impartial point of view we can save ourselves many mistakes and errors.

Three things to do when you are having problems in your life

I have had many things keeping me busy in my life but plan to write more often. July was a rough month to post things on my blog. People who seem to have their life stuck in their problems always wonder what they should do. I always do three things.

I think about what I have done in the past and make sure I show repentance of any things I did that could be misconstrued. I have the best intentions and move forward with what I think is the right thing to do. Yet life is not always able to be dealt with that way. The best intentions can go awry and look wrong. I always try to move it back towards my pure intentions and manifesting the things I feel will correct issues and problems. Yet it does not always work.

I repent for those moments. I always feel that repentance is a tool. It is not saying that you are wrong or your intentions are wrong. You are repenting the lack of knowledge and the way the intentions did not create the right results. Everyone hopes for the best results but life is messy and repentance is a way to ask the divine for help plus correct any mistakes, or things that went wrong.

You also ask the divine for his help and that you hope he accepts your repentance as a gift to you. Many people feel it is like an exchange but really none of us are perfect so asking it as a gift also covers any past mistakes we might have made that we feel should be ignored.

Next is to forgive yourself. You did not mean for things to work out in the wrong way. Your intentions were good but the results poor. Thank the divine for all of his help and say that your understanding was poor. Ask for his forgiveness and forgive yourself. Forgiveness always works to clear up the blockages and let things move forward. I also feel that it cuts out the ego. Ego gets between the person with problems and the divine. They feel they deserve the help and do not humble themselves. You can not be filled with the divine if you are already full of yourself.

The third thing is to ask for redemption and salvation. Ask to have your intents show and to please be redeemed that you did not mean for problems to happen. Ask that all agreements, actions, permission, and taking blame for yourself and others be redeemed and that you be saved and shown the right way to do things in the divines name.

Again humility and asking for the help as a gift promotes healthy thinking, looking at ones actions and helping yourself. These three things will always help to clear away the illusions, discord and mistakes in our lives. It will bring about the positive change and blessings that all of us want in our lives.