Listening with compassion

You can practice deep listening in order to relieve the suffering in us, and in the other person. That kind of listening is described as compassionate listening. You listen only for the purpose of relieving suffering in the other person.

Thich Nhat Hanh 

 

I feel this way at times when I am trying to discover a technique or find out how to make things work. I always try to ask questions and be a deep listener. Yet many times I am so excited to get in an intellectual discussion that I talk more than I should talk. I do it when I am upset or do not understand something.

 

I had the gift of someone just listening to me compassionately. I had problems with hackers and have been on and off the internet because of this happening to me. I feel like I let people down and still wonder if I am getting all of my emails. I have to complain and I do not like to complain. I am a problem solver and like to do things for myself.

 

I have had more down time recently than I have had in 14 years. I do not have problems like this or did not have problems like this in my life. So I did everything I could to make the computer work. I tried to block off everything that could be used and wondered if the problem with the computer was the nut at the keyboard. I tried to outwit everyone and outwitted myself quite a bit.

 

Yet I learned so much and have been grateful to the person who listened to me. Compassionate listening is an art and I do it all the time to the people who I help. So what happens when you get upset are you a talker or listener? I am both but living alone has taught me that I do talk when I have a nice person to talk too. So I have to thank the compassionate listeners that explain how things work in my life. Understanding  and relieving suffering is very important and so is listening. Everyone needs to be reminded of this in their life.

Dental Amalgams and Heavy Metals-Do they cause Physical, Mental and Spiritual Problems?

I am not doing a quote today but talking about a theory that I am working upon to help others. I had one of my clients today mention again that his teeth always bothered him before he saw negative energies and had problems in his life. I had heard this from other clients and also about a buzzing or sound frequency emitting from their teeth. I always knew there was a reason for it but wondered if it was like the times that people could pick up radio stations on their teeth. It really happens to some people.

Yet this time he mentioned Dental Amalgams and the fact that on one of the websites they mentioned that maybe the people having problems with demons in their lives had problems with the Amalgams. My first thought was what were they made of as I know they always say they are silver. They are 50% mercury and the rest is a combination of tin, copper, and silver. I know these are all metals used to make planetary talismans and are associated with specific planets according to alchemy and the Ancients. I copied a table and information from Ask.com.

Chemistry and astrology were related in alchemy. There were seven planetary metals that were ruled by corresponding celestial bodies. Often the symbols for the planets and the metals were the same.

• gold or aurum was dominated by Sol, the sun
• silver or argentum was dominated by Luna, the moon
• copper or cuprum was dominated by Venus
• iron or ferrum was dominated by Mars
• tin or stannum was dominated by Jupiter
• mercury (quicksilver) or hydrargyrum was dominated by Mercury
• lead or plumbum was dominated by Saturn

Uranus, Neptune, and Pluto had not been discovered at the time of the alchemists. Modern alchemists sometimes consider the symbols for these planets to represent the metals uranium, neptunium and plutonium.

 

All of these metals cause problems if there is too much of it in our system even iron. I have seen people who had to have blood drawn because of too much iron in their system. The radioactive elements have obvious problems. You can have problems or sensitivities to different metals. I can not wear regular silver in ear rings but have to use Stainless Silver. I actually do not wear ear rings anymore from the infections that regular silver and gold ear rings caused in my ears.

 

So what happens when evil and curses attack someone. It causes frequencies, vibrations and trends in the electrical system of the brain and this inspires how we emotionally respond and react to situations. So we are going about our lives and something can hook into us energetically by our teeth.I then thought was it the truth about the radio waves and teeth.

 

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A case of a perplexed husband and wife who heard the radio through her teeth. Everyone knows the negative effects that heavy metal can have on the system. It is why we are warned about mercury in fish, and lead in paint. Yet what if negativity can find people because their Amalgams stored the fear and terror of the dentist and other experiences that made it so they sent that out as a message. Could this be the reason some people have so many spiritual problems and never seem to be able to attract the good energies and things that they deserve? I am going to work on this theory but I found it interesting and maybe it is why some people always have the problems come back to them. 

 

I wonder if some of the weird things I talk about do have ways to change the energies in the cellular makeup due to the reception of the different metals in the body. I know that metals can affect the emotional and mental actions of a person. Look at the problems with children with lead poisoning for one example. Why could something else not be able to take advantage of it because they are inter-dimensional beings? 

 

I have to laugh because I sound like a nut case but everything I talk about is of the weird and unusual so I guess that does not matter to me. What a thought and could the people who have wide open psychic abilities that they can not control or seem to have something else controlling their lives no matter what they do or how they act have problems with the frequencies and disruption of their neurological networks? I guess everyone has to think about this for themselves.

They now have resin fillings and I ask every responsible parent to think about this for their children and themselves. It might change your life and how you live it. Could emotional problems of depression and other trends we have in this world be caused by our poisoning ourselves through our dental work or the metals we absorb through our cookware, plumbing and other things in our lives.

Family=The people we Love from our Heart

“There is no such thing as a "broken family." Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family. And if you hate those ties, those people will still be your family because whatever you hate will always be with you.

C.Joybell.C

Everyone has issues with their family. I do not know a single person who has gotten along with everyone in their family. There is always one person who is different that everyone either picks upon or tries to help. Family is all about helping each other and loving each other.

Hate and other issues can get in the way of the love in a family. No one trusts everyone in their family. At times things happen to family members that the other members do not want to believe. They use their own actions of what they would do to judge other family members. They talk hatred, anger and rage at the bad things that have happened. They have laughter, joy and love over the good things that happen to the family members.

Why do people say a family if broken if all of these actions and emotions are present in every family. It is broken when the ties in the heart are cut. This happens when family members hurt other family members so badly that love can no longer be there. Trust can no longer be there. The times I have noticed this happens is always over something that the family member who does the hurting of the other members is judgmental, manipulative or ignoring reality.

 

I have seen horrible things happen and the other family members ignore it. They say the person who is traumatized and hurt can deal with it. They always try to find a way to blame their indifference on the subject to something that is wrong with the other person. The other people are not perfect but for them to find a way to blame others where they do not have to get involved they try to make it so the hurt person is so imperfect that they get to disgrace and shame them. Manipulation of others always involves one person talking badly about the other person. 

The family goes after the imperfect people like a pack of wolves or piranhas and the person who is traumatized gets no support at all. It is always an act of superiority like I would never have that happen to me, and you are inferior if it did happen to you. No one ever thinks that trauma is not planned. It happens because we love and trust others. No one can predict who to trust or love. We can be betrayed by a wife or by a husband, a child, a father or a mother, a friend who got the whole family in trouble, a minister, or anyone else that is supposed to be someone to trust that causes a situation in our lives. Cruelty and abuse that have been done to others by family is overwhelming.

 

Is the person wrong who had the trauma or the people that caused the trauma. I like to believe that the person causing the trauma is the problem because they took advantage of the traumatized persons nature or figured a way to get what they wanted by hurting them. Those people are not your family or anyone elses family even if they are born in your family. They are out for themselves and to look superior. They do not love anyone but themselves.

 

Family is not by blood even though we all have a family by blood. Family is just like this quote says a product of the heart. It means your friends can be more of a family than your family by blood and birth.Let Love be what exists and release the hatred with forgiveness for any wrongs that have been done to you. Let it go so you can move onto the family of your heart.

People always bring up the bad trying to keep you stuck in place so the secret is to just not talk about it and say something nice and move onward.  Your not saying bad and your just not talking about it. releasing and forgiving them to God makes it so life can move forward. The wheel of fate grinds onward to the good future that the people who forgive deserve. You can forgive with out approving of their actions. You do not have to be around them again unless you allow it. You know their nature so if you are around them again just do not stay there if they abuse you. Leave and enjoy yourself with the true people who love you

Potential in life

“You were born with potential.
You were born with goodness and trust. You were born with ideals and dreams. You were born with greatness.
You were born with wings.
You are not meant for crawling, so don't.
You have wings.
Learn to use them and fly.”
― Rumi

How many of us let the suffering and sadness of life ruin our potential? The mean words of others who want us to crawl, the things of life that discourage us, the way we make it so we torture ourselves for not being perfect. How many of us use our wings?

Loving Kindness in actions and meditation is Buddhist but it is true for most religions. Every religion and culture has a way to be kind to others. Everyone has Ideals and dreams, and every one was born with goodness and trust. We all can be great in one way or another. It is what makes us happy that gives us a way to love our life.

The point is that we have to know that we are not meant to crawl because we live our own life. We do not live for others and their opinions. We do not live for our fellow person even as a parent. We live for the moment when we see ourselves how the divine sees us.

Our wings were given to us by the creation of our life. We never lose them but our wonder is lost when we have to live by the opinions of others. We lose our wings when we give up on our life. We lose our wings when we forget that we are loved. We do not give ourselves hugs, nor do we think of our ideals and dreams. We do not think of our own greatness.

The person who works every day for his family and is happy doing it is showing his wings. The person who loves someone and lets them fly by telling them how much they are loved is showing their greatness. Acting with goodness towards others is showing our wings.

We all have a bit of God in us so do not live by expectations of what our life will be but enjoy life. If we live our life for goodness and ideals. It is living up to our wings. Our actions show us if we remember our wings by the way we live our lives.

What might make things a little better?

“By approaching my problems with "What might make things a little better?" rather than "What is the solution?" I avoid setting myself up for certain frustration. My experience has shown me that I am not going to solve anything in one stroke; at best I am only going to chip away at it.”
― Hugh Prather, I Touch the Earth, the Earth Touches Me

 I have to say this is something that applies with problem solving. Everyone always looks for a solution. How do I solve this? How do I make this end? How do I quit people from doing this to others? It is always the word how that brings about the thought what is the solution. To some problems there are no solutions because we are not in control of how others act.

Other people can be rude, inconsiderate, insecure, liars and thieves. They can also be nice, sweet, kind, helpful and loving. The ones that have to be mean bring us into a certain place of how to stop them. People try to ignore others business just to give them respect. Yet these people have patterns of behavior and we can not solve that behavior of the ones that have to be inconsiderate, liars, and other bad actions.

The other people are blessings that we remember through out our entire life. I had a young girl who knew I felt ill try to get me to laugh. I opened the window and she was hanging from a pole attached to the walkway above my apartment. She was making a silly face and clinging to the window bars. My first thought was "Oh no she will hurt herself and I yelled at her. Don't fall I do not have anything to help you if you get hurt."

She looked so upset and hurt that I could not take it. I said "I'm sorry-I like you and I do not know what I would do if you got hurt. I don't have any bandages or any way to help you." She smiled with a happy grin and said "You like me." I told her that I liked all of the children that played in the yard in front of my place and on the water tower. I just worried about them falling. She listed off everyone's name including the daughter of my friend and said can I tell them that you like them. I had to laugh and said yes because it is true. She had so much fun going around telling everyone that I liked them.

I really felt good when I heard her parents say "Have we ever told our children that we like them?" The husband said I don't think so we always assumed that they knew we liked and loved them. They then told their three daughters that they liked them. The children looked so happy and all of the parents got into the moment.

So the nice sweet kind moments are more valuable than all of the moments that are dealing with the people who act otherwise. Maybe the bad acting people suffered from problems to warp them into weird ways of thoughts and hatefulness to others. Yet all of us have a choice to make things a little better. Sometimes it is standing up for ourselves no matter what others try to make of it. Sometimes it is realizing that people can be mentally ill and to have compassion for them and ignore their bad behavior as much as possible. Yet the line that can not be crossed is when they hurt others or do something really bad.

Other times it is making a memory of a really nice moment and knowing that I had a whole neighborhood tell their children that they loved and liked them. It is something anyone can do and any person that objects is the problem. Everyone remembers those moments in their lives where they felt liked and loved so making a memory of that for children is very important. Everyone needs that moment old or young.