How to be a Spiritual Person

How to be a Spiritual Person by Tzvi Freeman

X is an enlightened being.
He spends his life in the wilderness far from humanity, focusing his mind on the higher realms.

Harriet Goldberg is a schoolteacher.
She spends her life cultivating small minds, hoping to give them a sense of wonder for the world they live in.

Who is closer to G-d?

If the world came from G-d as light comes from the sun, spontaneously, but with no real interest, then X is closer.

If G-d created a world deliberately, because that is what He desires and cares for, then Harriet is closer.

You choose.

I have felt that living in this world and improving it was always what God wanted in our lives. I copied this quote from a website called www.chabad.org . I have found a great deal of wisdom in the quotes and articles. It is a Jewish website but I know that it is more in tune with what I feel about spirituality.

 I have had many clients work to be evolved, worry about it, do new things and try to be of higher vibrations. They are waiting for the next shift or the rapture. I feel that spirituality is meant to be shared. It is easy to be enlightened when you do not have to pay the bills, worry about feeding others, or taking care of the people in your life. I have found most of the people who do this are judgmental and try to fit you into their expectations. They try to structure and control their lives as if they are the ones who decide what happens to them not God.

People who do this will receive a great shock when things do not work for them. Everyone has ups and downs in their lives. I had a friend who broke her hip. All of her evolved and enlightened friends looked at her and said you wished this upon yourself. Not a single one helped her when she needed the help because they were too busy judging her and feeling like they were special. People need to deal with life and other people.

Isolation may be good for types of insight and problem solving. A rest, or relaxing in nature but it is all about connecting to something outside of ourselves and not worrying about others opinions. You may say but I do not worry about others opinions I am enlightened or evolved. Yet why would a person say that unless they did care about others opinions and want them to all know how special you are.

A real evolved and enlightened person in my opinion is the man who will be a garbage collector to feed his family because he has no other way to make money. He is taking care of his family first.A person who does not care if they are evolved or perfect but celebrates life to help others in one way or another. A person who appreciates their life and does not judge others just enjoys them as people. I can list it off continuously but it is not necessary.

Real people are precious and they are spiritual whether they are religious or not. They believe in doing what they can and what they feel is right. They have ethics. They do the best they can, and accept responsibility for themselves and their actions. They adhere to being good and doing good even with learning lessons about how life works. They are the ones I feel are evolved.  

I feel kindness, charity, and helping others is the real goal in life. Not worrying about status, looks, enlightenment or evolving. If you do good every one will think of you in a good way. Thinking only of how you appear and look to others, worrying about others opinions will trap you in a cycle where you are not doing the will of God. God is love. 

Guardian Angels

The guardian angels of life fly so high as to be beyond our sight, but they are always looking down upon us.  ~Jean Paul Richter

I am a person who believes in angels and guardian angels. I am sure my guardian angel has covered her eyes many times after saving me. I can see her saying Nita just survived that experience. I feel many people have had their guardian angels working overtime. Yet they never get proof of them in their lives. I have had that proof constantly.

A few years ago Don and I decided to drive to Laughlin, Nevada. Don is my ex-husband that I still take care of as he needs someone also. It is only about fifty miles from where we live. It is also a place where they have reasonably priced prime rib and both of us like to watch movies. Everything went fine but I heard a weird noise.

Don's normal response was to tell me I was being worried over nothing. I always jinxed his cars worrying about noises as it grew to a low roar. He was yelling to be heard but of course the sound was nothing. He could not ignore it by then but his comments were just to start an argument as if I had gone back and poured cement in the back end of the car. Totally discouraged I just shut up.

All of a sudden there was a loud bang, and we started to turn in circles. I was too scared to scream and I got to see semi-truck grills close up as we went through about 5 spins, and stopped from dropping over a cliff by inches on my side.  I was just sitting there shaking when the semi-truck grill I was seeing in the spins went by us and pulled up and stopped in front of us.

A older lady got out of the truck and said I made her believe in God. She said she had never been religious but had seen angels stopping the car from rolling, stopped the car from hitting their new truck and stopped us from going over the cliff. The new semi-truck was a car carrier so they winched our car up on the back of the truck and took us home.

They would not accept a dime and were excited over seeing angels. They dropped us off in our driveway, and then left. Don's main comment was guess we don't get to eat prime rib tonight.  Everyone says Don is bored stiff when I am traveling and gone.

Don told a couple of friends about what the lady said about angels. They said how do you know it is not true and shared their angel stories with us. Everyone has had a time where the prayers of others or their own prayers bring the guardian angels to protect them. I hope you get to see your guardian angels and know that God loves you.

Genuine Friends

Friends, genuine friends, are attracted by a warm heart, not money, not power. A genuine friend considers you as just another human being, as a brother or sister, and shows affection on that level, regardless of whether you are rich or poor, or in a high position; that is a genuine friend. - Dalai Lama

 I find people who I feel are family that I like to include in my life. They are my friends and many of them are closer to me than my family. All of us have let the wrong people into our lives at times. They become our challenges and the way to learn to respect ourselves. Yet people that become true friends can be closer to us and more understanding than many of our family members.

Good friends are just like this quote mentions. They have a warm heart and like you for yourself. They may shake their heads at times as they have done the same things and it did not work out well. They are there for you even after you have made an utter fool out of yourself.

They love you even when they do not see you and seem like family. Affection is very important and friends will show that to you. They miss you and call up up just to show you they care. The best marriages always have both people liking each other as friends. Good friends are a blessing and a gift. I see peoples souls and occasionally fool myself believing that the person acts the way their soul shows them to be.

It is not always true as challenges in life can cause us to act very differently than what our soul shows us to be. It is overcoming the challenges and shining the light of our true selves upon others. It is not always easy to do and a real friend will keep being a friend. So I dedicate this blog post to all the people who are real friends to others, who try to do something nice for their friends, who cheer them up when they need it, show their friends respect, and are just there for them. They are truly the blessings of this world.

Gossip, Bad words, and Hurting Others

"If those bad words come, I let them come in one ear and go out the other. I never let them come out of my mouth. If a bad word comes in your ear and then comes out of your mouth, it will go someplace and hurt somebody. If I did that, that hurt would come back twice as hard on me."

-- Wallace Black Elk, LAKOTA  I wonder if anyone keeps track of how many times they say something that could hurt someone? I know everyone will repeat things about others both good and bad. Yet even saying good things can cause problems. Some times it is just like some bad word going into your ear and coming out your mouth. You can even watch yourself say something and wonder why you are doing it. Everyone also says things that can hurt others. No one is innocent of this form of harm and gossip. The Jewish religion calls it Loshon Hara and it is one of the forbidden things to do to others. You are not supposed to use words to hurt or harm others even if the facts are true. It is so common there are children rhymes to make it easier to take. "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." It may sound good but it is very untrue. People judging others, and treating others badly hurts. The words can cause problems especially with making the things said more dramatic. Gossip does hurt others. People seem to stick together in groups. We also put others into groups. We do not see others as real people instead it is seeing ourselves as separate. The groups can be anything. Yet once something is classified as outside of the group and separate then it is when danger can happen to anything not in the group. We have examples through out history of people picking scapegoats and making them a bad example or using them to get everyone to do violence or that cause group problems. Helen of Troy had problems for being beautiful. The Japanese were interned in camps because they could be identified as separate. The color of the skin has been used by every race to say bad things and make others different. Beer commercials make it sound as if the beer is more understanding than the women of the world. A scapegoat used to be the goat sacrificed to appease everyone. In King Kong the actress sacrificed to King Kong was a scapegoat. Anyone that stands up and takes the hit for the group he is a member of is a scapegoat. Many people in jobs can not feel good about themselves unless they pick an office scapegoat to feel superior over. So it is more on the same subject of how we treat our fellow man. Responsibility is the one of the ways to resolve these issues and competing with ourselves. It is not easy to do. Yet in the end it comes down to one thing. We can watch our own actions and hope that good manners become contagious.We can watch ourselves and not do the bad actions that have harmed us.

Mistakes and how to deal with them

The quote I picked after the last blog post is the following one.

Everyone has mistakes in their life. No ones life is perfect.Everyone will always have problems. But how we deal with them makes us who we are.

I know many of the people who talk to me expect life to stay perfect all of the time. Life has ups and downs. Astrology, fortune telling, and many other things have been developed by mankind over the years trying to predict these times. Yet nothing has been perfect in my experience as there are always things in our lives that we are meant to do. It is not easy when you are doing the right thing. If it is to easy then you should look at it and see why. Challenges and fixing problems in your life is not easy. 

Dealing with mistakes and admitting to yourself and others that it is a mistake is not easy. You can have the best intentions in the world and have it go wrong. I have always felt that this happens because we have not learned what we are meant to learn from our mistakes. One person will make a mistake and try to blame it on others so it is their fault. A person like this needs to learn responsibility for the actions they take in their life. Everyone makes mistakes and the quickest way to deal with them is accepting responsibility for them.

Some mistakes happen because of improper communications between people. The only way this works is by both parties looking at what happened and why. I have found most communication problems are not about what is said as much as the reactions it causes. No one is perfect so it is the people dealing with their expectations of how they felt things would go. Again not rationalizing but taking responsibility.

I have seen others who feel the only way to get to the top is to blame their mistakes on others and look better than them. I have found the really successful people are the ones who take the blame for the mistake and resolve all of the issues. The next question is do we learn from the problems. A person who asks for an explanation of how things happens and then calls it excuses has missed the point. The point is to understand why a person did something.

I will mention introspection here as if we do not look at ourselves from another persons viewpoint or a viewpoint of observing our actions then we will get nowhere. All problems should be used to look at how they happened, how it can be prevented from happening again, and whether the mistake is just a fact that the whole action or idea was wrong. If the whole idea was wrong then it is time to do different actions to make it so the mistake is gone and life is good.

Many times the mistakes happen during a time in a persons life where they seem to have nothing but mistakes happening to them. Everything goes wrong and they do not know why as everyone else makes the same actions work. I feel these times are the best times to learn about yourself. It helps to define us as individuals by what we do to make our lives our own. I also feel that these times are when we fall off our path, and something is trying to show us that we should do something different in our lives.

Each persons path is their own and most of the time we would not want to be in the other person's shoes and living their life. Yet understanding that if we look at our actions by what repercussions they can cause and harm they can do from an impartial point of view we can save ourselves many mistakes and errors.